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Worried I feel like none of my friends like me

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I am scared and very upset because none of my friends talk to me and I tried to start conversations and send them memes and stuff often and I asked about it on Reddit and some people said that if their sentences are short then that means your forcing them to talk to you and that they don't want to talk to you and it makes me worried because alot of my friends have short responses and I feel like I'm bothering them and I don't want to be going over their boundaries and it's really upsetting me I don't want to anger my friends and I feel the constant urge to apologize to them 

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Quote from wingedbeagle on April 21, 2021, 11:14 am

I am scared and very upset because none of my friends talk to me and I tried to start conversations and send them memes and stuff often and I asked about it on Reddit and some people said that if their sentences are short then that means your forcing them to talk to you and that they don't want to talk to you and it makes me worried because alot of my friends have short responses and I feel like I'm bothering them and I don't want to be going over their boundaries and it's really upsetting me I don't want to anger my friends and I feel the constant urge to apologize to them 

Hi there, there is no need to worry about, trust me if you ask your friends how is their day or something similar. In case their reply is short it doesn't always mean that they do not want to talk to you. This could mean that they are busy currently or they simply do not want to spend their time on mobile or something similar. I sometimes reply my friends in several days and it is not because I do not like them or don't want to talk to them. Simply I do not have always time to do so or I forget to reply. I am only a human. Please do not appologize always. Ask what you need or want to ask, tell what you need to tell or want to tell and react based on reply. If there is nothing to add based on the reply then ok, leave it as it is and move on. Write or call to someone else or go out for a walk 🙂 And if someone do not want to talk to you because he/she doesn't like you or something similar then why should you be sad or why should you waste your time because of such a person? Don't do that. There are sooo many people who like you and would love to spend time with you, be there for them 🙂

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I've been trying to socialize more with a friend that I haven't spoken to in a while and I started talking to her more recently and I got really worried if I was bothering her so I said "I apologize if I'm being annoying" and she said I wasn't being annoying but I'm still worried because I still feel like I'm bothering them

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These are OCD thoughts and unfortunately they will continue if you keep powering them up by focusing on the situation. Difficult as it is, try not to put energy into figuring out what is going on in someone else's mind. You will never be able to do that and it will just cause you more anxiety and OCD thoughts. Also, do not ask friends for reassurance and that will only make matters worse as well. 

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Has texting my friend become a compulsion?

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I would think that it could be if you are seeking reassurance.

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How do I start good conversations with people?

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I am not exactly sure what you mean. There is nothing wrong with texting people, but if you continue to ask them if you are bothering them or having intrusive thoughts about needing to apologize to them that can be OCD. Try to trust yourself, send a text when you want to send a text and try to let it go. You are not responsible for how people respond.  The fact that you are worried about it shows that you are a caring person and OCD is finding a way to slip into the situation. Hope this helps a little

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