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My ROCD specific theme is thinking I need to date other people before committing to my boyfriend. I have what feels like urges to be with other men. Wondering if anyone else struggles with this? Fantasies make me think I will eventually cheat or need to leave my relationship.

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Hi, I have that too. It's not a very strong thought for me. But I have a feeling that I had to date more before committing to my now boyfriend. Even though I am in my early 30s and I dated a lot in my 20s. So the fear in my case is just an OCD thought. But this explanation is how reassure myself and it is bad for OCD. So what we need to do is just accept that this is OCD thought and do not ruminate, do not imagine ourselves doing it, do not think of reassuring thoughts. Notice, say with sarcasm "yes, totally, I will cheat, yes" and start concentrating on other tasks, keep doing it over and over! Track your rumination time. Plan your days! I am in a better place. But recently I fell back a bit. Now I think that my partner is very unattractive and people will think bad about me coz I am with him. Which is crazy because I used to find him very charming. So... Working on it now. Really hard.

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im 22 and im worried that sometimes i love them so much that they dont even care about me anymore cause of my ocd its like there is nothing that they can do for me to help me but i think thats false. im getting better with the exposure response therapy im doing it fot r myself with no help and im managing but i dont like the feeling i just looking forward having postive thoguhts = 6048392218