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Disregarding

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Hi all. Hope you’re keeping well. And Ali - thanks for starting a forum. I’ve been listening to your audio on YouTube and podcasts for over a year now, and have found them incredibly helpful (I even personalised a bracelet with the words ‘They are not your thoughts’ from a podcast from October 2019). I also now have the app too

So, to the issue I’d like to get people’s views on. Disregarding.

I have got a lot better at disregarding over the past few months. Not ‘good’ as such, but am making progress. One of the major problems I have though - and something which makes me feel that I’m struggling to make more meaningful and long lasting progress - is what happens when I don’t disregard (or feel like I can’t disregard) and the ocd essentially takes hold. At that point, how do I then reign it back in to the point I was pre paying attention to the thoughts.

So what happens is something like: I disregard well for a little while, then I pay attention to an anxiety, and I fail to disregard, and then it impacts me / my life for a little while. And what I would really love - but struggle with - is to get to a point where I may fail to disregard (though of course the aim is to continue improving here), but manage to get back calmer position as soon as possible - rather than what often happens: days and days of high anxiety where I feel consumed. I guess the simplest way of asking this (sorry for rambling), is - on those occasions where you don’t disregard, how do you stop it from going too far, so that the ocd is not having a major impact on you for a longer period of time.

I would really appreciate peoples’ thoughts and views. Many thanks, Rahul.

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I totally understand this question as i have experienced it too. What has helped me is that even if i intiatally get off track and start to react to a thought. It helps to catch myself and then to jump back on track as quickly as possible so the "setback" doesnt last as long. If you realize you reacted but then keep reacting which i have done, I think everyone does during recovery, it just make you feel worse as im sure you know so id say don't beat yourself up, but once you realize that you started to analyze or however you reacted and now you feel worse  the best thing you can do is just start preventing the response as best as you can. I know its hard but if you disregard it may take some practice but you will start to come out of it quicker.

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I found by labelling the thoughts as ocd really helps . And then asking myself what is my highest thought about this from my Observer , Godhead , gatekeeper or super subconscious. Do I really believe in this ?  Remember the brain is a thought producing factory it is not you . Your task is to ask “ is this thought helpful ? Does it benefit me  ? How does it behave or make me feel ?  It really does come down to a matter of choice . Sounds easy I know . Good luck and best wishes .

 

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Thanks both; appreciate your replies. I guess this all further highlights the importance of disregarding to begin with. But yes, it can be hard. And then very difficult, once you haven't, to then stop it from escalating quickly, and becoming all-consuming.