RELATIONSHIP OCD CHAT
Anonymous200115
Anonymous199037
Yeah I really struggle with being able to choose a partner. Constant bombardment with negative thoughts and hypervigilance on every detail of them. To the point I can't work out how I feel about anything
Anonymous199037
Does anyone having a hard time thinking if I really wanna choose this relationship/partner?
Anonymous200115
@dylan0010: I guess the only way is to really listen to your own values, you know deep down that you wouldn't have done anything and thence therefore have nothing to confess. In a way us telling the other person is seeking reassurance for ourselves. But again I'm still going through all this so I'm definitely not an expert
Anonymous200115
dylan0010
Hi dylan0010, yes I have been there many times for sure. It's such a powerful thought isn't*t that the only way we can feel like we are absolving that guilt is by telling the other person.
dylan0010
But suddenly i'm feelign guilty about it, and if I dont confess it's like i'm contaminating the relaitonship which is so important to me.
dylan0010
But suddenly i'm feelign guilty about it, and if I dont confess it's like i'm contaminating the relaitonship which is so important to me.
dylan0010
Hello, i'm new here. I have relationship OCD. I am getting increasingly anxious lately and ruminating about the need to confess things to my partner. I know that confessing these things will not improve the relationship. 3 months ago we were still not officially together and while I was abroad I danced with a girl I found attractive in a club. We danced quite close. Nothing happened.
Anonymous199479
I compulsively call a partner I hate/love. He has done horrible things to me. It is harassment and I need to stop and when I stop he comes back. Currently in a bad spiral of calling after I have let him in yet again and he has f**ked me over yet again. I hate being obsessed with a person, it makes you feel like you’re not one like life doesn’t matter without them.
Anonymous199367
My partner told me I treat him in a way that is subhuman when he was drunk and I feel like I deserve to die
Anonymous199037
Does anyone having a hard time thinking if I really wanna choose this relationship/partner?
Anonymous198945
Does anyone else feel like they don’t have ROCD and your just trying to convince yourself that you do?
Anonymous197870
I do! It’s so hard
Anonymous194010
I keep getting constant thoughts that my relationship is over but I don't want it to be, what does this mean
Anonymous193780
Anonymous188716
Same
Anonymous188716
I've been doing good for a while, but then it all came back. My boyfriend misses the old me that loved him endlessly, I miss being in love with him. I love him so much yet my anxiety scares me when he hugs me, scares me with s*x. I can't do it anymore, I just want help. I want to forgive myself but all I see is a failure
Anonymous192493
Anonymous186312
This.
Anonymous186312
Ali could you discuss the topic of “Association OCD” , which is when things you like/do/enjoy gets ‘ruined’ because you attach an intrusive thought to you. This makes you either avoid or not enjoy these things because everytime you encounter you are reminded and triggered by that thought you associated. It could be with literally anything but my main issue is mainly food, people, placed
Anonymous191333
Yes a fair bit actually, you’re not alone
Anonymous190131
I started tracking today. Before I didn't tried it.thinking it's a lot of work.But Ali always tells us to track.So I tried it,& it really works.I'm actually not ruminating like I always do.I will recover faster like these in-sha-Allah
Anonymous190131
I'm in ROCD.I'm not doing so well.It's not so bad as well.But to fully recover I need to put more work
Anonymous189266
@Anonymous180705: back door spike. It’s natural for you to go to the numb or neutral place after high anxietyZ it doesn’t mean anything
Anonymous188716
I've been doing good for a while, but then it all came back. My boyfriend misses the old me that loved him endlessly, I miss being in love with him. I love him so much yet my anxiety scares me when he hugs me, scares me with s*x. I can't do it anymore, I just want help. I want to forgive myself but all I see is a failure
Anonymous187875
Hi everyone. I think I have rOCD. I obsess over things my partner has or hasn’t done. Right now I’m obsessed with some minor “evidence” that he’s cheated on me while I’ve been on holiday. I don’t want to go into this evidence because it opens a can of worms, but objectively speaking there are perfectly reasonable explanations that disprove my so called evidence, and this isn’t the
Anonymous186791
hi there i have been suffering with ocd for a few months and was wondering if it is ok to tell my partner the things i am thinking or will it make it worse. it feels better when i do but dont know if thats good or not...hahaha
Anonymous186638
Hi guys, i suffer from cheating ocd im really tired from feeling guilty and awful about it when i interact with a male friend i always get an intrusive thought that I cheated and i literally feel an urge which i know is an ocd symptom but i cant tell whether its my thoughts or i actually did it , its my worst fear i love my bf so much please help me
Anonymous186594
I've got ROCD. My biggest problem to cope with it are my severe stomach pains. Sometimes it gets a little bit better, then I don't ruminate. But as soon they pass a break even point, I don't now what to do. It's practically impossible to not think about it or stand the thoughts as guided. So, what can I do, to do proper ERP? Is it perhaps possible you make a podcast on pain and ROCD?
Anonymous186312
Ali could you discuss the topic of “Association OCD” , which is when things you like/do/enjoy gets ‘ruined’ because you attach an intrusive thought to you. This makes you either avoid or not enjoy these things because everytime you encounter you are reminded and triggered by that thought you associated. It could be with literally anything but my main issue is mainly food, people, placed
Flaaffy
Flaaffy
If you don’t see any improvement, you can always discuss other possible explanations and treatments with your therapist in the future. Personally, I think applying Ali’s method can be valuable regardless of if you have OCD, because it can help build our ability to trust ourselves. 3/3
Flaaffy
I’ve been dealing with what I believe to be OCD for coming up to seventeen years; the key word here is “believe”. It doesn’t matter what your therapist or anyone else believes, it only matters what you believe. I think it’s worth trying for a time to treat what you’re experiencing as if it is OCD. 2/3
Flaaffy
Flaaffy
I’ve been dealing with what I believe to be OCD for coming up to seventeen years; the key word here is “believe”. It doesn’t matter what your therapist or anyone else believes, it only matters what you believe. I think it’s worth trying for a time to treat what you’re experiencing as if it is OCD. 2/3
Flaaffy
I know it’s been some time since you messaged this forum, but I’d like to help if I can now. First, don’t fall into the trap of trying to prove to yourself and your therapist that you have OCD, let alone that ROCD is real. Trying to prove its existence can become an OCD theme, so it’s best to sidestep that entirely. 1/3
Flaaffy
Anonymous185302
I know it’s been some time since you messaged this forum, but I’d like to help if I can now. First, don’t fall into the trap of trying to prove to yourself and your therapist that you have OCD, let alone that ROCD is real. Trying to prove its existence can become an OCD theme, so it’s best to sidestep that entirely. 1/3
Anonymous185302
Hi! I think I’m experiencing ROCD. I’m really afraid because I talked to my therapist and she told me that ROCD doesn’t exist. So I’m feeling like I’m denial and I’m crazy
Anonymous185302
Hi! I think I’m experiencing ROCD. I’m really afraid because I talked to my therapist and she told me that ROCD doesn’t exist. So I’m feeling like I’m denial and I’m crazy
Anonymous181054
I think if you think it is a compulsion than it probably is one. Avoiding is definitely a compulsion. Anything that you do to try to get rid of your anxiety in the moment can be considered a complusion
