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The thoughts get so bad sometimes I will tell myself to avoid harming my loved one Id rather just kill myself
Sometimes I feel the same way, like it all just gets too much.
Anonymous176615 Hi there. I am having a terrible time with my thoughts and I’m wondering if anyone else has been through anything similar. I always had a very close relationship with my family and would have said I loved them very much without question. However, I’ve been having thoughts that maybe I don’t love or care about my family, or anyone for that matter, but am only concerned with how they serve me.
Anonymous176615
Anonymous176615
Hi there. I am having a terrible time with my thoughts and I’m wondering if anyone else has been through anything similar. I always had a very close relationship with my family and would have said I loved them very much without question. However, I’ve been having thoughts that maybe I don’t love or care about my family, or anyone for that matter, but am only concerned with how they serve me.
I’m absolutely plagued by this. I’m concerned that I don’t genuinely love or care about my family. I do have OCD but I don’t know if this is OCD or if it’s real. Please help!
Seamstress
Anonymous176615
I’m absolutely plagued by this. I’m concerned that I don’t genuinely love or care about my family. I do have OCD but I don’t know if this is OCD or if it’s real. Please help!
OCD always attacks the areas that mean the most to us. The fact that these thoughts bother you is a good indication that it is OCD. If you didn't love or care about others than you wouldn't be concerned about the thoughts. Accept that these thoughts are a symptom of OCD and don't pay any attention to them..
Anonymous176615
Seamstress
OCD always attacks the areas that mean the most to us. The fact that these thoughts bother you is a good indication that it is OCD. If you didn't love or care about others than you wouldn't be concerned about the thoughts. Accept that these thoughts are a symptom of OCD and don't pay any attention to them..
Thank you for replying. It’s so hard. I’m so worried that I don’t genuinely care about other people but only care about what they can do for me (provide support, company etc).
Anonymous176615
Anonymous176615
Thank you for replying. It’s so hard. I’m so worried that I don’t genuinely care about other people but only care about what they can do for me (provide support, company etc).
And even being worried about that feels selfish because I’m worrying because I want to be a decent, normal person (ie I’m worrying for selfish reasons)
Seamstress
Anonymous176615
And even being worried about that feels selfish because I’m worrying because I want to be a decent, normal person (ie I’m worrying for selfish reasons)
Right now you are ruminating and it will only get worse unless you stop paying attention to the thoughts - thoughts are spiraling from one concern to another.
Anonymous176615
Seamstress
Right now you are ruminating and it will only get worse unless you stop paying attention to the thoughts - thoughts are spiraling from one concern to another.
Thank you. I’m almost afraid to stop ruminating and just accept the thought (do ERP) incase it turns out that the thoughts are true. I don’t know how I would cope with that.
Seamstress
Anonymous176615
Thank you. I’m almost afraid to stop ruminating and just accept the thought (do ERP) incase it turns out that the thoughts are true. I don’t know how I would cope with that.
By accepting the thought you don't accept that it is true, you just accept that it is an OCD thought. If you don't power up the OCD thoughts they will eventually lessen. Difficult I know, but the only way.
Anonymous176615
Seamstress
By accepting the thought you don't accept that it is true, you just accept that it is an OCD thought. If you don't power up the OCD thoughts they will eventually lessen. Difficult I know, but the only way.
Yeah but what if it’s not OCD 😖
Seamstress
Anonymous176615
Yeah but what if it’s not OCD 😖
Everyone with OCD asks that question I believe because it feels so real. Perhaps watch one of Ali's videos about OCD feeling real.
Anonymous176615
Seamstress
Everyone with OCD asks that question I believe because it feels so real. Perhaps watch one of Ali's videos about OCD feeling real.
Thank you for replying to me ❤️
Anonymous163633 Just wanted to give fellow sufferers a bit of motivation today! You can do this! Don't listen to what OCD is telling you!
Anonymous176737
Anonymous163633
Just wanted to give fellow sufferers a bit of motivation today! You can do this! Don't listen to what OCD is telling you!
😀👍
Seamstress Hello: Just wanted to let you know that I am doing quite well for most part but then slip from time to time like past 24 hours. Had an OCD thought and felt like I "needed" to do a compulsion and then did one. Then ruminated off and on for several hours to do another one.
Seamstress Part 2 Was able to delay compulsion for sev. hours but then it got too much and I did compulsion today and like Ali said - felt relief for about 2 minutes and then felt I needed to do another one which I did. Lesson to be learned for me and everyone with OCD.
Seamstress Part 3 Lesson is not to give power to OCD thoughts at the beginning. At least I was able to use some delaying techniques which hopefully will help my brain learn that it wasn't that important. My hope is that this chat forum will give us encouragement.
Seamstress Part 4 Let us share are achievements as well as our struggles.
Anonymous176743 Hello I need some help-almost a month ago someone offended me and everyone said it’s because the person is jealous of me but I can’t seem to let it go
Seamstress
Anonymous176743
Hello I need some help-almost a month ago someone offended me and everyone said it’s because the person is jealous of me but I can’t seem to let it go
Even though it is a real-life situation thoughts surrounding it can get obsessive. We can't control other people's behaviours, only our own. Even though the person offended you and it probably hurt, obsessing over it won't help. I suppose if you can do something to make relationship better than do it, if not, ruminating will not help.
Anonymous176773
Seamstress
Even though it is a real-life situation thoughts surrounding it can get obsessive. We can't control other people's behaviours, only our own. Even though the person offended you and it probably hurt, obsessing over it won't help. I suppose if you can do something to make relationship better than do it, if not, ruminating will not help.
I can’t stop ruminating
Seamstress
Anonymous176773
I can’t stop ruminating
Like Ali says - Can you reduce even a little bit each day?
Anonymous176896 Hello
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
Like Ali says - Can you reduce even a little bit each day?
Hello Seamstress, it's nice to see you back on here. How have you been?
Anonymous176728 Is It True That Weed Really Makes You h***y?
Anonymous163633 OCD has been twisting my exposures. I'll do ERP and then my OCD will tell me, ''ohhhh, you shouldn't have done that'' and then I'll feel like I should go back and sort of ''undo it'' in a way. My OCD also makes it seem like I've done something I can never come back from, which makes it feel impossible to recover
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
Hello Seamstress, it's nice to see you back on here. How have you been?
Hi Helmut: I am doing okay. Still have a way to go. Helps me to help others. Find OCD is like my addiction - when I am under stress reach for an OCD thought. Some days seem really good, others not so much and then I beat myself up which doesn't help. Find tracking hard for some reason. How about you?
Seamstress
Anonymous163633
OCD has been twisting my exposures. I'll do ERP and then my OCD will tell me, ''ohhhh, you shouldn't have done that'' and then I'll feel like I should go back and sort of ''undo it'' in a way. My OCD also makes it seem like I've done something I can never come back from, which makes it feel impossible to recover
This is how OCD works. When we try to change OCD will put up a fight as mind was used to giving us fear - thinks it is protecting us. Takes some time for it to stop sending us "fear or OCD messages" If we stop paying attention to it will lessen and eventually stop.
Anonymous176912 I have some days where my anxiety sky rockets and j constantly panic about ut as the house thoughts are always in my head and I have other days like today where I think what if I was gay and I have no reaction to it and due to me being like this for about a month now I feel like I'm lost all attraction to guys(im a girl) and its doesn't panic me when I have no anxiety so it makes it feel so real
Anonymous176912 Also it feels if I'm not in a constant state of panic I feel like I'm accepting these thoughts and feels like it's true when deep down I know it's not but I just can't over come it
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
Hi Helmut: I am doing okay. Still have a way to go. Helps me to help others. Find OCD is like my addiction - when I am under stress reach for an OCD thought. Some days seem really good, others not so much and then I beat myself up which doesn't help. Find tracking hard for some reason. How about you?
I've kind of suffered a reversal of fortune. Life at home used to be great, no problems there with my OCD. Going out and mixing with other people was still difficult however. Now going out is much easier (thanks to ERP), but at home my gay neighbour has just moved his partner in and that's sent my HIV OCD into overdrive unfortunately. Have you tried Ali's app or push notifications to help track?
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
I've kind of suffered a reversal of fortune. Life at home used to be great, no problems there with my OCD. Going out and mixing with other people was still difficult however. Now going out is much easier (thanks to ERP), but at home my gay neighbour has just moved his partner in and that's sent my HIV OCD into overdrive unfortunately. Have you tried Ali's app or push notifications to help track?
No, I am not that tech savvy and was just using pen and paper. Find it easy to track compulsions but for some reason rumination is difficult. I either forget to track, unsure of what to track or difficulty knowing when rumination starts. Maybe just excuses. What about you - are you tracking and does it help?
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
I've kind of suffered a reversal of fortune. Life at home used to be great, no problems there with my OCD. Going out and mixing with other people was still difficult however. Now going out is much easier (thanks to ERP), but at home my gay neighbour has just moved his partner in and that's sent my HIV OCD into overdrive unfortunately. Have you tried Ali's app or push notifications to help track?
I guess you could look at it as an all day exposure, but still very difficult - big trigger for you I would think.
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
I guess you could look at it as an all day exposure, but still very difficult - big trigger for you I would think.
Yep,I definitely need to change my perspective. As for tracking, with my type of OCD the thoughts are easy enough to recognise, but I guess I'm not ready to put 100% commitment into it right now. I did keep a little notebook on me 24/7 in the past, which kept me making progress. Planning each day, noting unexpected triggers, mistakes, feelings etc. It definitely helped.
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
I guess you could look at it as an all day exposure, but still very difficult - big trigger for you I would think.
Anyhow, have to run. I'll be back on in a few days and will probably speak to you then. Fingers crossed we'll both be doing a little better🤞
Anonymous176937
Anonymous176912
I have some days where my anxiety sky rockets and j constantly panic about ut as the house thoughts are always in my head and I have other days like today where I think what if I was gay and I have no reaction to it and due to me being like this for about a month now I feel like I'm lost all attraction to guys(im a girl) and its doesn't panic me when I have no anxiety so it makes it feel so real
I get this too. It’s like if something is worrying me then it must be true, and if something isn’t worrying me then it must be true. There’s no way to win. Personally I feel like sometimes when I’m not worrying about my obsessions I think it’s just that my brain is so tired it physically cannot worry at that moment. It’s tough. Your response to your thoughts doesn’t make them true re
Anonymous176937
Anonymous176937
I get this too. It’s like if something is worrying me then it must be true, and if something isn’t worrying me then it must be true. There’s no way to win. Personally I feel like sometimes when I’m not worrying about my obsessions I think it’s just that my brain is so tired it physically cannot worry at that moment. It’s tough. Your response to your thoughts doesn’t make them true re
People without OCD get intrusive thoughts too (for example about their sexuality), but they don’t worry about it. And just because they don’t worry about it doesn’t mean it’s true, just that they aren’t worrying about it and consequently their days aren’t taken up with it, which is great!
Anonymous176934 Hello
Anonymous177037 Hello, anyone with memory hoarding OCD here?
Anonymous176972 If someone can give me some advice I’d really appreciate the help as I don’t think I can do this anymore . So I have harm ocd it’s awful the intrusive thoughts I get so distressing and everyday I think I’ve done then but obvisouly I haven’t . When I’m at home ( living in a small village in the countryside ) I feel ok like I can keep my ocd under control it’s not too bad . But the min
Anonymous176972 …a big city for where I go to uni , my ocd was horrific last year I was constantly stressed , living in a horrible uno area made my ocd so bad I felt constant stress like I was going to have a breakdown every day . ( no body I know knows about my ocd ) . However this year I wasn’t nothing more than to move back to university for second year into a flat in the city centre with my friends
Anonymous176972 … But should I avoid this for the sake of my ocd and mental health , I’m not overcoming my ocd as much as I try it’s too hard with the scary thoughts I get
Anonymous176972 Is it possible being around so many people all the time and not been able to keep track will make me not be able to cope . But then I don’t want to not live my life because of my ocd . Can someone help . Also if anyone has suffered with harm ocd intrusive thoughts and false memories I’d massively appreciate hearing your story
Anonymous176972 Feel like I have no one to relate too and not a lot of people talk about that on here
Seamstress
Anonymous176972
Feel like I have no one to relate too and not a lot of people talk about that on here
I am no expert for sure - but I do have experience with OCD. Had a little trouble understanding your statements but sounds like when you are with a lot of people your OCD of harm and false memory gets very hard to deal with. Probably avoiding will not help but sounds like it is almost too much at once.
Seamstress
Seamstress
I am no expert for sure - but I do have experience with OCD. Had a little trouble understanding your statements but sounds like when you are with a lot of people your OCD of harm and false memory gets very hard to deal with. Probably avoiding will not help but sounds like it is almost too much at once.
Part 2 - Sounds like a 10/10 exposure. Could you start out by living in little quieter environment and work your way up to being with more people?
Anonymous176505 If anyone needs to talk let me know..
Anonymous176935 Hello, im really suffering in ocd swallowing, i tried all, but still stock , i dont know what to do right now, can someone give me advice to overcome itsmile
Anonymous177156 My HOCD now makes me feel not necessarily anxious but guilty maybe? Whenever I think I’m going back to normal and able to enjoy a thought or fantasy about a woman like I did before OCD it’s almost as if my OCD is now trying to get me to be scared of a straight relationship… that I don’t like women and I’m not attracted to them. Does anyone else have this “flip”?
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Thought: My partner is not beautiful

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I don’t know if anyone here is having this same specific very weird thought. That when you look sometimes at your partner or at a picture of him, it says he is not that beautiful, Therefore I can’t be with someone ugly ! (And like ... in the real life when you are with him you find him very handsome and attractive) but well... he is not the most handsome in the world but I love him and I find him handsome, but sometimes I have this thought poping up probably because what attracted me first about him was his personalitu and not physical. I remember the first time I sow him I thought, oh he is so tall wow let’s look at his face and saying ... oh he is not handsome. And then being impressed by his personality until one day I was like omg he is handsome ! And then I was so into him ect... until OCD hits me so sooo hardly.
it comes and goes, when I choose to not listen to the thoughts and reassure myslef ect ... it comes for like weeks to 1 month or two and then comes again with new or old thoughts that I thought were solved !

i love my partner, he is the perfect one for me, I wan to marry him and I feel like I can’t be happy because of this OCD. 

how can anybody that is in love with someone thinks he is ugly when he was attracted to him at the begining ?!! How can that be...

and of course there are million of other thoughts like cheating, or what if he is not the one, or what if he is not intelligent enough or what if he has an STI or whatever miserable thought that hurts me so deeply. But this one is killing me because beauty is important maybe to me ... 

I am really confused and afraid that if I recover, I will find myself still seeing him not as handsome as I would like him to be or something like this and discover that I was juste reassuring myself and saying it was OCD when it is not. Because like ... I am feeling that I really think this is true like I truely thik he is not that handsome. It is a fact so it is not OCD right ?! But I love him! Maybe I should be with someone more handsome to be confident that I love someone ?! I think I will loose my mind guys ... 

I am tired.

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 It's common problem for a ROCD because you keep observing him every day and you keep thinking it over and over and you find a problem where there isn't. Make a list to what you love about your partner or you can write him a letter with what you love about him or why you are happy with him. 

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I don’t know if anyone here is having this same specific very weird thought. That when you look sometimes at your partner or at a picture of him, it says he is not that beautiful, Therefore I can’t be with someone ugly ! (And like ... in the real life when you are with him you find him very handsome and attractive) but well... he is not the most handsome in the world but I love him and I find him handsome, but sometimes I have this thought poping up probably because what attracted me first about him was his personalitu and not physical. I remember the first time I sow him I thought, oh he is so tall wow let’s look at his face and saying ... oh he is not handsome. And then being impressed by his personality until one day I was like omg he is handsome ! And then I was so into him ect... until OCD hits me so sooo hardly.
it comes and goes, when I choose to not listen to the thoughts and reassure myslef ect ... it comes for like weeks to 1 month or two and then comes again with new or old thoughts that I thought were solved !

i love my partner, he is the perfect one for me, I wan to marry him and I feel like I can’t be happy because of this OCD.

how can anybody that is in love with someone thinks he is ugly when he was attracted to him at the begining ?!! How can that be...

and of course there are million of other thoughts like cheating, or what if he is not the one, or what if he is not intelligent enough or what if he has an STI or whatever miserable thought that hurts me so deeply. But this one is killing me because beauty is important maybe to me ...

I am really confused and afraid that if I recover, I will find myself still seeing him not as handsome as I would like him to be or something like this and discover that I was juste reassuring myself and saying it was OCD when it is not. Because like ... I am feeling that I really think this is true like I truely thik he is not that handsome. It is a fact so it is not OCD right ?! But I love him! Maybe I should be with someone more handsome to be confident that I love someone ?! I think I will loose my mind guys ...

I am tired.

Good morning, this is a very common ROCD theme. I have also been going through this for the past 6 months and it has been a very hard theme for me to deal with. I have been married to my wife for 11 years. Everything had been perfect (as good as it gets in my opinion). I have had OCD for most of my life like most of us do. This summer my OCD morphed into Harm-OCD and then soon after ROCD. It first started with what if I don't love my partner enough, and then quickly moved onto what if I have fallen out of love with my wife and don't find her attractive anymore and want to cheat.

This is called a cognitive distortion. It's basically an irrational belief. The good thing is since we made up the irrational belief, we can also change it. Ruminations are what keeps this all going. Ruminating is a compulsion and needs to be cut out. You can't control the first thought, but you can control what you decide to replay.

You have to remember a few things.

1- Attraction doesn't really matter, that's where we're always told to make sure you like your partner as well. Looks fade, and to are not always going to be attracted to your partner. If you leave your current partner, you will have the same issues with your new partner eventually.

2- Love is a choice, just like happiness is a choice. Love is not a feeling, but an action. It's something that we get to choose to do. Yes, sometimes love produces feelings, but its not a feeling. If you want to love someone act loving towards them (not compulsively).

3- Always base your choices and actions based on your values. Don't listen to OCD. That is what it wants. Choose based off your values.

4- Stop any dialog with these thoughts. Just say, yeah, maybe, maybe not. Maybe I don't find my partner attractive anymore, maybe I do.. can't know for sure, or agree with the thought with humor... okay OCD, I don't think my partner is attractive anymore.. whatever you say and laugh. OCD is like a bully. The more that you care, the worse it picks on you. Just say, thanks but no thanks. Stop engaging and trying to figure any of it out. OCD is a  impulsive liar. You can't answer questions that are fake to begin with.

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Has this been an ongoing thing with your ROCD? 
are you on any antidepressants?

just want to know, because I think I have partner focused ROCD and I feel very alone.

most of the time I think I don’t have ROCD. The psychiatrist has told me I have OCD. I somehow refuse to believe it.

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Has this been an ongoing thing with your ROCD? 
are you on any antidepressants?

just want to know, because I think I have partner focused ROCD and I feel very alone.

most of the time I think I don’t have ROCD. The psychiatrist has told me I have OCD. I somehow refuse to believe it.

hey, 

it's normal for us who suffer from ocd just believe we don't, it is actually the very first signal of anxiety/ocd: what if this is not ocd/anxiety and just me denying it? 

trust me, I also have that thought. we all have (what a coincidence, right?) 

it's normal just do the same thing you do with the other thoughts and disregard it ? 

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Quote from Guest on December 29, 2020, 7:13 pm

I don’t know if anyone here is having this same specific very weird thought. That when you look sometimes at your partner or at a picture of him, it says he is not that beautiful, Therefore I can’t be with someone ugly ! (And like ... in the real life when you are with him you find him very handsome and attractive) but well... he is not the most handsome in the world but I love him and I find him handsome, but sometimes I have this thought poping up probably because what attracted me first about him was his personalitu and not physical. I remember the first time I sow him I thought, oh he is so tall wow let’s look at his face and saying ... oh he is not handsome. And then being impressed by his personality until one day I was like omg he is handsome ! And then I was so into him ect... until OCD hits me so sooo hardly.
it comes and goes, when I choose to not listen to the thoughts and reassure myslef ect ... it comes for like weeks to 1 month or two and then comes again with new or old thoughts that I thought were solved !

i love my partner, he is the perfect one for me, I wan to marry him and I feel like I can’t be happy because of this OCD.

how can anybody that is in love with someone thinks he is ugly when he was attracted to him at the begining ?!! How can that be...

and of course there are million of other thoughts like cheating, or what if he is not the one, or what if he is not intelligent enough or what if he has an STI or whatever miserable thought that hurts me so deeply. But this one is killing me because beauty is important maybe to me ...

I am really confused and afraid that if I recover, I will find myself still seeing him not as handsome as I would like him to be or something like this and discover that I was juste reassuring myself and saying it was OCD when it is not. Because like ... I am feeling that I really think this is true like I truely thik he is not that handsome. It is a fact so it is not OCD right ?! But I love him! Maybe I should be with someone more handsome to be confident that I love someone ?! I think I will loose my mind guys ...

I am tired.

Good morning, this is a very common ROCD theme. I have also been going through this for the past 6 months and it has been a very hard theme for me to deal with. I have been married to my wife for 11 years. Everything had been perfect (as good as it gets in my opinion). I have had OCD for most of my life like most of us do. This summer my OCD morphed into Harm-OCD and then soon after ROCD. It first started with what if I don't love my partner enough, and then quickly moved onto what if I have fallen out of love with my wife and don't find her attractive anymore and want to cheat.

This is called a cognitive distortion. It's basically an irrational belief. The good thing is since we made up the irrational belief, we can also change it. Ruminations are what keeps this all going. Ruminating is a compulsion and needs to be cut out. You can't control the first thought, but you can control what you decide to replay.

You have to remember a few things.

1- Attraction doesn't really matter, that's where we're always told to make sure you like your partner as well. Looks fade, and to are not always going to be attracted to your partner. If you leave your current partner, you will have the same issues with your new partner eventually.

2- Love is a choice, just like happiness is a choice. Love is not a feeling, but an action. It's something that we get to choose to do. Yes, sometimes love produces feelings, but its not a feeling. If you want to love someone act loving towards them (not compulsively).

3- Always base your choices and actions based on your values. Don't listen to OCD. That is what it wants. Choose based off your values.

4- Stop any dialog with these thoughts. Just say, yeah, maybe, maybe not. Maybe I don't find my partner attractive anymore, maybe I do.. can't know for sure, or agree with the thought with humor... okay OCD, I don't think my partner is attractive anymore.. whatever you say and laugh. OCD is like a bully. The more that you care, the worse it picks on you. Just say, thanks but no thanks. Stop engaging and trying to figure any of it out. OCD is a  impulsive liar. You can't answer questions that are fake to begin with.

yeah!!! that's it, love can actually have feelings of course but is its MAJORITY it's a choice of being, trusting, caring, love the same person over and over again despite all duferences, that's what love is! loved it! I'm still struggling too but I remember that everytime because it is actually true, people think that in a relationship it's urgent tohave passion all the time, butteflies, fireworks, always thinking our partner is awesome and beautiful and it's not, a true relationship has its ups and downs and true love shows itself when we as a couple overcome that, that is love: choice, hope you're doing well 🙂

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Sometimes I find my partner handsome and sometimes I don’t. I feel good with him even when he is in the “ not attractive “ phase in my head. Also some days I think I look more attractive than other days. There isn’t  big book of truth that describes what is handsome or pretty. The beauty is in the eyes of beholder! When you don’t find him handsome do you still feel like spending time with him and do you enjoy him? Would you be ok releasing him to a girl that would find him handsome? Something tells me that you are not the only one that found him attractive and if you were not together he would find that person, not staying lonely for the rest of his life. Ocd is tricking you into feeling bad about something that isn’t bad. And you know for sure it’s ocd when you are “ thinking into the future “. What if in the future I will find him unattractive....”. Thinking in future is anxiety, in the past its a depression. Ocd is an anxiety disorder. If you enjoy your partner do so despite the ocd... maybe close your eyes and feel your love to him and then try to imagine giving him to someone who would find him attractive all the time because that person wouldn’t suffer from ocd. 🙂

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Quote from Guest on December 29, 2020, 7:13 pm

I don’t know if anyone here is having this same specific very weird thought. That when you look sometimes at your partner or at a picture of him, it says he is not that beautiful, Therefore I can’t be with someone ugly ! (And like ... in the real life when you are with him you find him very handsome and attractive) but well... he is not the most handsome in the world but I love him and I find him handsome, but sometimes I have this thought poping up probably because what attracted me first about him was his personalitu and not physical. I remember the first time I sow him I thought, oh he is so tall wow let’s look at his face and saying ... oh he is not handsome. And then being impressed by his personality until one day I was like omg he is handsome ! And then I was so into him ect... until OCD hits me so sooo hardly.
it comes and goes, when I choose to not listen to the thoughts and reassure myslef ect ... it comes for like weeks to 1 month or two and then comes again with new or old thoughts that I thought were solved !

i love my partner, he is the perfect one for me, I wan to marry him and I feel like I can’t be happy because of this OCD. 

how can anybody that is in love with someone thinks he is ugly when he was attracted to him at the begining ?!! How can that be...

and of course there are million of other thoughts like cheating, or what if he is not the one, or what if he is not intelligent enough or what if he has an STI or whatever miserable thought that hurts me so deeply. But this one is killing me because beauty is important maybe to me ... 

I am really confused and afraid that if I recover, I will find myself still seeing him not as handsome as I would like him to be or something like this and discover that I was juste reassuring myself and saying it was OCD when it is not. Because like ... I am feeling that I really think this is true like I truely thik he is not that handsome. It is a fact so it is not OCD right ?! But I love him! Maybe I should be with someone more handsome to be confident that I love someone ?! I think I will loose my mind guys ... 

I am tired.

hey, can i contact you somehow? Maybe email or messenger? I would like to ask you a couple of questions. i'm 18 and i have rocd, i want to get some advice from people who overcame it

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hello how are you doing?