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Anonymous99413 But now*
Anonymous99413 I do think women are pretty, even more than men, but I’ve never been sexually attracted, to me it’s just a matter of aesthetic beauty, and now my brain is telling me I’ll have to leave my boyfriend of almost 6 years and it scares me
Christa
Anonymous99413
I do think women are pretty, even more than men, but I’ve never been sexually attracted, to me it’s just a matter of aesthetic beauty, and now my brain is telling me I’ll have to leave my boyfriend of almost 6 years and it scares me
Hi! I suffered with hocd and recovered and this is all just another way it tries to trick you. Chose to disregard.
Anonymous95362 How to know that how much minutes I am ruminating
Christa
Anonymous95362
How to know that how much minutes I am ruminating
Can you please elaborate on that? I'm not sure what you're asking? If you are talking about tracking you need to start with a set time and everytime you ruminate count the minutes you have been focusing on it.
Christa Everyone battling hocd: Stop ruminating. You seriously will look back on this one day and laugh at how much time you spent worrying. Last year I couldn't sleep because of my hocd thoughts and false memories. For months I spent worrying and overthinking wether this action I did or thought made me gay. With hard recovery work, I slowly got better and learned to leave those questions alone.
Christa
Christa
Everyone battling hocd: Stop ruminating. You seriously will look back on this one day and laugh at how much time you spent worrying. Last year I couldn't sleep because of my hocd thoughts and false memories. For months I spent worrying and overthinking wether this action I did or thought made me gay. With hard recovery work, I slowly got better and learned to leave those questions alone.
They aren't you none of this has to do with you. Ocd just latched onto it cause relationships and sexuality is apart of what you care about. Even if you don't care about sexuality that much, it's still ocd. Don't fall for the tricks
Anonymous99421 Thank you so much
Christa Of course no problem. You seriously will be okay. What you are going through sounds like exactly what I went through and it's just trying to get a reaction out of you. Only look at it as that don't be like but I had this thought I had this feeling I had this image. It doesn't matter
Anonymous95362
Christa
Can you please elaborate on that? I'm not sure what you're asking? If you are talking about tracking you need to start with a set time and everytime you ruminate count the minutes you have been focusing on it.
I am asking that how can I know that how much minutes I am ruminating because it all is going in my head
Christa
Anonymous95362
I am asking that how can I know that how much minutes I am ruminating because it all is going in my head
Oh okay. So basically if you are focusing on the thought at all in your head and giving it negative attention or any attention at all that's rumination. So start at lets say 12:00 and be like for the next 5 minutes I'm gonna focus on this activity and just say whatever when the thought/feeling/image/sensation pops up. If you start to fall into it and worrying about it and trying to figure it out
Christa
Christa
Oh okay. So basically if you are focusing on the thought at all in your head and giving it negative attention or any attention at all that's rumination. So start at lets say 12:00 and be like for the next 5 minutes I'm gonna focus on this activity and just say whatever when the thought/feeling/image/sensation pops up. If you start to fall into it and worrying about it and trying to figure it out
that's rumination. So after you go 5 minutes and lets say you accidentally fell into it and after saying whatever to the thoughts until 12:02 you start to go but what if this isn't ocd and start to worry again. Then you have to pick it up and be like no just ocd thought still focusing on this activity and figure out how long you fell into it.
Christa
Christa
that's rumination. So after you go 5 minutes and lets say you accidentally fell into it and after saying whatever to the thoughts until 12:02 you start to go but what if this isn't ocd and start to worry again. Then you have to pick it up and be like no just ocd thought still focusing on this activity and figure out how long you fell into it.
Don't overcomplicate it. If you are giving it any attention in your brain that's rumination. Track the time you give it attention or think about it or if that's too hard give yourself a limit for how long you can think about it. You know so give yourself a worry time but make sure you disregard it otherwise and change your reaction as much as possible
Christa
Anonymous99377
Thank you for the answers! Im also curious whether your OCD made you feel not quite like yourself? Cuz the themes are like the opposite of what you believe in, so you dont even know what you are as a person anymore
Yes ocd can very much do this. It happens to me all the time. Its just because ocd can give alot of weird thoughts/feelings/urges/images/sensations which make you feel not like yourself
Anonymous95415 I also feel like a different person. Like out of my body with all these urges and thoughts I have a hard time even knowing if I'm ruminating or not
Christa
Anonymous95415
I also feel like a different person. Like out of my body with all these urges and thoughts I have a hard time even knowing if I'm ruminating or not
This is called dissociation. It happens alot in ocd. If you want more info you can google dissociation or dissociation in ocd. It is extremely common. Our bodies and brains do it as a response to fear/trauma to protect us.
Anonymous94079 Hi Christa,u helped me a lot yesterday. I took your advice and even though I felt worse, I did what you told and I was like whatever and didn't repeat myself (maybe I did once or twice) but I was feeling victorious until today. I'm having a bad time and I'm repeating an activity again and again like in a loop
Anonymous94079 I was doing good till now now I feel so sad. I don't know how to break out of this loop
Anonymous96452 I was doing good till now now I feel so sad. I don't know how to break out of this loop -- do the same thing you diod yesterday. WIthout paying attention on how you feel.
Christa
Anonymous94079
I was doing good till now now I feel so sad. I don't know how to break out of this loop
Hi! I'm so happy to hear that you have been getting better! Be proud of yourself for that! What you are facing now is just a setback you can get back to that place. Dont feel bad remember recovery is a rollercoaster. I was doing amazing the other day in my religious ocd recovery and today i feel back at square 1. It happens in ocd. To break out of the loop you just need to be like ok i fell down
Christa
Christa
Hi! I'm so happy to hear that you have been getting better! Be proud of yourself for that! What you are facing now is just a setback you can get back to that place. Dont feel bad remember recovery is a rollercoaster. I was doing amazing the other day in my religious ocd recovery and today i feel back at square 1. It happens in ocd. To break out of the loop you just need to be like ok i fell down
But im gonna try to get up again and disregard even tho its not going away even though it feels very real. Remember ocd can trick u into feeling ANYTHING so you just gotta stand up to it and find your power again. You can do it u did it once i believe in you
Christa Whats the activity you are repeating specificially?
Christa
Christa
Whats the activity you are repeating specificially?
Cause any activity or compulsion is breakable trust me i had an awful habit where i needed to replace a thought that i had and it became so bad it felt like a habit at that point. But i broke it and now im much bettwr
Anonymous94079 As part of my work I was filling up the time sheets where you log today's work. So I was doing that and suddenly really bad thoughts came in so I started deleting the entries and repeating the entering of data again and again. It's only 5 rows but still I'm even ashamed to say that I did this. So weird
Anonymous94079 It's just that thoughts came in its okay I can ignore them but the fact that I feel I'm smiling at those thoughts is what makes me annoyed
Anonymous94079 Not the content of the thoughts but ocd is making me believe that I'm smiling when those thoughts are coming in
Christa
Anonymous94079
As part of my work I was filling up the time sheets where you log today's work. So I was doing that and suddenly really bad thoughts came in so I started deleting the entries and repeating the entering of data again and again. It's only 5 rows but still I'm even ashamed to say that I did this. So weird
My mom had a similar problem when she had ocd. It can be very odd. She told me though that she broke it by not repeating it no matter what. You have to break the compulsion and sit with the anxiety and thoughts. It will try to pull u in any way possible and really push u at first but once u get past that you will ok and the anxiety will go down. I know its really hard and the thoughts are bad
Christa
Anonymous94079
Not the content of the thoughts but ocd is making me believe that I'm smiling when those thoughts are coming in
I cannot tell you how common that is. I had like 5 people on that chat come in yesterday saying the exact problem people on reddit have the problem I had this problem so just tell your brain everybody goes through this. Dont be like but im actually smiling what does this mean about you. It means nothing it means you have ocd and your ocd is pulling another trick
Anonymous94079 Idk If I should share this, I watched a whole episode of a popular series without repeating myself. Yes I felt bad worse and it felt like I was experiencing unwanted thoughts throughout that 1 hour still at the end I felt proud of myself but today it's completely the opposite
Christa
Anonymous94079
Idk If I should share this, I watched a whole episode of a popular series without repeating myself. Yes I felt bad worse and it felt like I was experiencing unwanted thoughts throughout that 1 hour still at the end I felt proud of myself but today it's completely the opposite
Im so proud of you thats amazing! You still made a lot of progress yesterday. Recovery is a journey and it can feel like you hop on and off alot and thats ok. You are going to have off days thats okay. Its normal dont beat yourself up over it
Anonymous94079 smile
Anonymous94079 All the best guys!
Anonymous94079 Thank you
Christa
Christa
Im so proud of you thats amazing! You still made a lot of progress yesterday. Recovery is a journey and it can feel like you hop on and off alot and thats ok. You are going to have off days thats okay. Its normal dont beat yourself up over it
Also, you can go back and forth and still recover. Try to pick it up again you got this. I believe in you its okay that today you feel the opposite you will get better
Christa
Anonymous94079
Thank you
No problem! Trust me you will get better pick it up come on you got this! You fell down but you can get back up and break it
Anonymous97066 i feel mentally drained, ocd has ruined me, i will never be the same again
Anonymous97066 has anyone tried text support and has it helped
Christa
Anonymous97066
i feel mentally drained, ocd has ruined me, i will never be the same again
You will be the same dont give up! I was where u were and im better now
Christa
Anonymous97066
has anyone tried text support and has it helped
I havent but michele and kirby are great so i would do it
Anonymous97066
Christa
You will be the same dont give up! I was where u were and im better now
are u completelt recovered
Christa
Anonymous97066
are u completelt recovered
I am completely recovered from hocd and im in 3rd stage for sexual obsessions and religious ocd
Anonymous97066
Christa
I am completely recovered from hocd and im in 3rd stage for sexual obsessions and religious ocd
what does it mean to be completely recovered
Christa
Christa
I am completely recovered from hocd and im in 3rd stage for sexual obsessions and religious ocd
Either way take it from me im only in the the 3rd stage of my other obsessions and im mounds better than where i was
Christa
Anonymous97066
what does it mean to be completely recovered
I dont experience any hocd symptoms
Christa
Christa
I dont experience any hocd symptoms
Sometimes i will but it is only like once every few weeks which ali said is normal
Anonymous97066
Christa
Sometimes i will but it is only like once every few weeks which ali said is normal
oh but if youre completely recovered why do u still have some symptoms
Christa
Anonymous99409
Oh my gosh thank you. I've been so stuck on this. I've gotten good at disregarding thoughts and sensations. But the only thing I'm afraid of now is, I had one time where I had that feeling where I wanted to think of a thought and I did. That was scary. Do I just treat it the same way?
I had the same thing its just ocd no worries! Treat it the same way and dont be like but i actually gave in and thought it no u didnt ocd pulled a trick on you
Christa
Anonymous97066
oh but if youre completely recovered why do u still have some symptoms
Since my brain went through a very traumatic experience with hocd it will sometimes through it at me out of nowhere once in awhile to try to see if i will fall into hocd again
Christa
Christa
I had the same thing its just ocd no worries! Treat it the same way and dont be like but i actually gave in and thought it no u didnt ocd pulled a trick on you
I actually remember the night it happened i thought something was wrong with me and i was so scared and panicked and i came to the chat and like left michele 20 messages lol desperate for reassaurance until she answered with like this is just ocd relax😂
Anonymous97066
Christa
Since my brain went through a very traumatic experience with hocd it will sometimes through it at me out of nowhere once in awhile to try to see if i will fall into hocd again
oh ok sad sounds like we will battle this for life
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Now I have no anxiety or compulsion .....no rumination at all but my attraction towards opposite sex is not coming back n i m worried about this