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Anonymous65599
Anonymous67461
Ok so if u have been 20 years suffering it is not going to go away in a few months. I would suggest getting personal sessions with ali or an ocd coach. If u cant then try to not do the things your ocd is telling you. Take a leap of faith and dont fall into ocd tricks.
thanks for support. unfortunately, I can't afford sessions with Ali, because it's very expensive.
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
I wanted to ask, though ive worried about quite a few themes for short whiles in the past, I have only a couple main ones, and my brain keeps telling me that because they seem more possible (common is a better word) than the other ones and because i've stressed for longer on those subjects in particular. how can I shift that thinking?
I have suffered from many themes as well and something to shift your thinking is remembering that stressing on any subject regardless is still u worried about it and showing your brain that you fear somethings. Dont listen to any of what ocd tries to tell u. Changing your response to thoughts about your themes can help alot
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65599
thanks for support. unfortunately, I can't afford sessions with Ali, because it's very expensive.
I know it is so hard to get treatment. I have heard NOCD is really affordable or better help is good
Anonymous65023
Anonymous67461
I have suffered from many themes as well and something to shift your thinking is remembering that stressing on any subject regardless is still u worried about it and showing your brain that you fear somethings. Dont listen to any of what ocd tries to tell u. Changing your response to thoughts about your themes can help alot
thank you, i'm really trying, I went to a psychiatrist yesterday and I dont think he fully understood my problem, though he was supporting and sweet. I think part of him thinks its denial, though that could be me jumping to conclusions
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
sorry I messed that up, the worry is that im in denial because they seem to more common worries
That's just ocd as well. Make the choice to treat it all as ocd because coming from an outside view as someone who suffers from ocd i can relate and see that you have ocd
Anonymous65599 I decided to make musical videos on youtube because I'm constantly alone, I don't have friends, maybe I will find somebody and we will make music together or just drink beer on skype lol
Anonymous65599
Anonymous65023
Anonymous67461
That's just ocd as well. Make the choice to treat it all as ocd because coming from an outside view as someone who suffers from ocd i can relate and see that you have ocd
thank you I really appreciate that, ive been rumintating 5-8 hours a day for three months (not mentioning before that) and its so difficult
Anonymous65599 oh! I'm feeling guilty that I posted it here
Anonymous65023
Anonymous65599
that's awesome!
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
thank you, i'm really trying, I went to a psychiatrist yesterday and I dont think he fully understood my problem, though he was supporting and sweet. I think part of him thinks its denial, though that could be me jumping to conclusions
Of course! Let me tell u something. Even some psychatrists are not educated on ocd. This girl on tiktok it took her years to find a therapist because all the ones she went to were uneducated. Make sure ur therapist is aware of all the subtypes. Also dont believe him or let him get to u he is just another uneducated person!
Anonymous65599 guys I can't express how hard it was to f**kin' upload it on youtube because of obsessions
Anonymous65023
Anonymous67461
Of course! Let me tell u something. Even some psychatrists are not educated on ocd. This girl on tiktok it took her years to find a therapist because all the ones she went to were uneducated. Make sure ur therapist is aware of all the subtypes. Also dont believe him or let him get to u he is just another uneducated person!
thanks, i'll try to keep it in mind!
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
thank you I really appreciate that, ive been rumintating 5-8 hours a day for three months (not mentioning before that) and its so difficult
I know how it feels. From july-september all of my days were spent anxiety ridden and ruminating about ocd. I can say that i am in a much better place now.
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
thanks, i'll try to keep it in mind!
No problem!
Anonymous65599 I mean I feel guilty cause people talkin' about ocd here and I look like a motherf**ker who speaks about his video, but I'm an ocd sufferer too
Anonymous65599
Anonymous65023
that's awesome!
thank you!
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65599
I mean I feel guilty cause people talkin' about ocd here and I look like a motherf**ker who speaks about his video, but I'm an ocd sufferer too
Anyone is welcome here hahaha! But seriously ur videos could be a good distraction for some
Anonymous65599
Anonymous67461
Anyone is welcome here hahaha! But seriously ur videos could be a good distraction for some
thank you!
Anonymous65023 I'm kind of new to this forum, ive never really been on an online forum, so helloooo! smile
Anonymous65599 I'm drinkin beer to relax, almost every day I feel insanely exhausted but I don't wanna die, I wanna kill at least magical thinking
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65023
I'm kind of new to this forum, ive never really been on an online forum, so helloooo! smile
Hi!
Anonymous65599
Anonymous65023
I'm kind of new to this forum, ive never really been on an online forum, so helloooo! smile
hi! welcome to the forum!
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65599
I'm drinkin beer to relax, almost every day I feel insanely exhausted but I don't wanna die, I wanna kill at least magical thinking
The first step to solving your problem is stop drinking beer to relax. Using substances to relax urself from ocd is not helpful and continues the cycle. To kill magical thinking u must stop doing compulsions. Sit with your anxiety and dont listen to when your brain tells u to do something.
Anonymous65599 I don't drink beer every day, I am not able to tolerate this pain in my soul and incredible headaches, it feels like my brain is a big swallen piece of meet
Anonymous67461 If anyone is wondering i have recovered from HOCD, TOCD, and am in recovery from POCD from ali's videos so feel free to ask questions.
Anonymous67461
Anonymous65599
I don't drink beer every day, I am not able to tolerate this pain in my soul and incredible headaches, it feels like my brain is a big swallen piece of meet
Yea i understand ur pain just dont make it a habit
Anonymous71643
Anonymous67461
If anyone is wondering i have recovered from HOCD, TOCD, and am in recovery from POCD from ali's videos so feel free to ask questions.
How do you disregard the thoughts because i always try to and they stick right onto my brain and i can’t think of anything else
Anonymous62972
Anonymous67461
Yea i know what u mean. U have to understand ocd controls alot of your reactions. However it makes u feel is not actually u. Its the same thing where how some straight girls would be like oh yea i wouldnt mind having s*x with another women and they still identify as straight. Sexuality isnt something most ppl overthink unless u have ocd
does this mean the thoughts are a sign that I want s*x with men?
Anonymous69565 Hey 5599 I subscribed to your channel smile
Anonymous69565 Good luck to your channel. And I wanna tell you something last. We are humans and thoughts are not something magic that can hurt someone. Are only thoughts who lives in our minds. Jesus can save you if you want it
Anonymous71217 My heart goes out to all you OCD sufferers here, it is truly difficult and can be debilitating. I hope everyone can get the recovery they deserve and finally live a life of ease.
Anonymous69565
Anonymous71217
My heart goes out to all you OCD sufferers here, it is truly difficult and can be debilitating. I hope everyone can get the recovery they deserve and finally live a life of ease.
Thank you my friend ❤
Anonymous69565 We are in the hand of God.. He keeps us always safe
Anonymous65599
Anonymous71217
My heart goes out to all you OCD sufferers here, it is truly difficult and can be debilitating. I hope everyone can get the recovery they deserve and finally live a life of ease.
thank you so much!!!
Anonymous65599
Anonymous69565
Hey 5599 I subscribed to your channel smile
hey hey hey!!!!!!! thank you so much!!!!!!
Anonymous70995 Before my HOCD, I was so sure I was straight but now since I have the thoughts so much I am worried that my sexuality has flipped. I am worried that if I sit with the thoughts and don't immediately suppress them like I usually do, that I will figure out that I like the thoughts and I will be forced to accept my "new" sexuality. Thoughts?
Anonymous70995 Also, during OCD is is normal to loose all your attraction to the opposite s*x? Like whenever I look at a happy male and female couple, it feels like my body doesnt want it but that makes no sense because I have always wanted that. Why can't I feel anything I used to?
Anonymous65434
Anonymous70995
Before my HOCD, I was so sure I was straight but now since I have the thoughts so much I am worried that my sexuality has flipped. I am worried that if I sit with the thoughts and don't immediately suppress them like I usually do, that I will figure out that I like the thoughts and I will be forced to accept my "new" sexuality. Thoughts?
Same here like sometimes it's feels like I actually turned and it terrifies me but I try to always remember that In the past I always looked at girls and if girls where doing anything sexy I would feel uncomfortable and not watch or skip and forget about cause I had no thoughts on it but now if I see something like that my brain spouts out stuff like heyy you find her hot.. You wanna do yatta yatt
Anonymous65434 With her so even if it feels impossibly real it's not and trust me I suffer to the point where I have gotten scared of guys or being in a relationship cause I'm always scared that I won't like and Ill realise I'm gay I'm still trying to get over it I hope we can recover one day
Anonymous70995 Also. can having HOCD change your sexuality? I feel like I completely forget what its like to be straight and that I am lying to myself.
Anonymous65434
Anonymous70995
Also. can having HOCD change your sexuality? I feel like I completely forget what its like to be straight and that I am lying to myself.
No hocd cannot change sexuality.... It may feel like that but no.. You are born with your sexuality if you were one sexuality all your life it cannot change.. This is ocd playing tricks on you... Were you attracted to the same s*x when you were younger if not then you are not cause sexuality makes it self known since you are young
Anonymous65434 And no finding the same same s*x pretty or handsome does not make you a gay... It is human nature to find anything that is remotely attractive admiration worthy... Sending you good vibes let's do recovery together and come out strong
Anonymous71663 Any advice on extreme fear and monitoring of the groinal response? I force myself to sit in one place cos if I move just a bit my mind will say I’m grinding for pleasure. It affects me going to the toilet because I hear my neighbours kids voices outside and I can’t go to the toilet until they are gone or else it’s like I’m being sexual with them/getting off by them. It’s so extreme
Anonymous70995 thank you so much for the advice guys, you really saved my life!
Anonymous65434 Groinal response in this instance is caused by anxiety believe it or not.. It does not mean you are attracted to the kids.. It means you are so anxious about being attracted and having Groinal response that you actually get it.. It is normal... From what I gathered from advice and experiences sit with that feeling no matter how impossible and uncomfortable it is.. Face the fear and feelings head.
Anonymous65434 On do something to tire yourself out.. So that you do not overthink
Anonymous65434 And begin to ruminate
Anonymous71663
Anonymous65434
Groinal response in this instance is caused by anxiety believe it or not.. It does not mean you are attracted to the kids.. It means you are so anxious about being attracted and having Groinal response that you actually get it.. It is normal... From what I gathered from advice and experiences sit with that feeling no matter how impossible and uncomfortable it is.. Face the fear and feelings head.
I try, then I doubt if I enjoyed the sensation, if deep down I wanted it more and the only thing stopping me is ocd... I try but sometimes the anxiety is so high
Anonymous63628 This is a burning question of mine. Is it part of OCD that you only get these thoughts when you're convinced or am I going crazy? When I get less convinced, I don't get the thoughts as often. It's the same with feelings. If I become convinced that I'll get feelings from a thought or something I'm seeing (butterflies etc) or I'm scared I will, or I'm checking, that's what happens. Am I crazy?.
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Is it okay to cry in recovery?

I’ve been at this for months now and I feel I’m at end of stage 2, beginning of 3, but I still find myself getting overwhelmed at times. In the beginning, I’d cry far more often but now it’s lessened a ton. However, I feel cry out of frustration at times. I’ve made such good progress but it feels like so much work every day. When I do cry, it’s very short and I don’t let myself ruminate, but it just feels needed. 

Hi, I also experience a lot of crying in recovery, and I think that is totally okay! Currently, a new theme came about and I'm climbing out of a pretty big relapse, but for the last month, I believe I was in the third stage as well. Even if things were going relatively well the past few days, many things OCD-related or life-related would easily upset me. Personally, I feel like getting our minds out of an OCD situation and maintaining composure takes a TREMENDOUS effort, so it is definitely natural to feel overwhelmed at times. I would say crying is the best emotional outlet to release any pent up emotions. It can be very healing at times, but only if you do it with the intention of emotional release and gratitude. Sometimes, I find myself crying at the unfairness of it all, after comparing myself with others, or simply feeling pity for myself. This kind of crying often leads me to more rumination. I would say as soon as you feel yourself start crying, simply let the tears flow unrestrained, but don't think too much about what exactly is bothering you. Instead, make yourself a warm mug of your favorite drink, turn on your favorite music, grab a blanket, and just let yourself cry until you can't anymore. If you have a loved one- friend, parent, or partner that can make you feel better, cuddling with them while you cry might also help. But whatever happens, NEVER isolate yourself or feel ashamed that you cried! Instead, feel thankful that your body knew what's best for you, and feel proud that you were able to lighten the weight on your shoulders. Hope that helps!

Beautifully said! Thank you ❤️