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messedfornow Yeah anon I feel you!
messedfornow Lots of rumination has been present today.. mainly because my physical restlessness when disregarding these stupid thoughts that is it okay to just disregard these thoughts
messedfornow I mean is it okay to just be physically unrest when disregarding painful thoughts? Like moving your feet when trying to disregard thoughts?
messedfornow It is really hard to just stand still when these thoughts are present.. My mind just keeps asking is these restlessness compulsion? I just think it is a normal reaction to anxiety
needyou Hi
needyou I want to ask something to other ocd sufferers. Is a compulsion or ressurance, to tell your friend about your obsesseions and to tell him that you feel very sad and depressed... Because I do this 1-2 times a day. Is this a compulsion that I should stop?
getoverthis266 more like reassurance i think.
needyou Yes I think that is something that I have to stop.. But the truth is that it's difficult.. I shouldn't tell all the time that I'm sad.... I have to accept that I'm all the time sad and live with these feelings
getoverthis266 hey. i think all you gotta do is loosen up a lil bit. i find dancing effective.
getoverthis266 learning new moves and it doesn't matter if you are beginner or what phase you're at.
getoverthis266 dance exercise i pretty darn fun i tell you that.
needyou Dance is really a helpful weapon... Good idea
getoverthis266 and also telling people you're sad and all is good. no doubts about it but here's the thing. It's up to you how to make yourself happy
getoverthis266 there are different and various outlets for you to release that pent up frustration, anxiety and depression especially in this pandemic
getoverthis266 think of this time as the period of improvement where all people are busy thinking bout the future and whatnnot. focus unto yourself.
getoverthis266 and also, if you're an atheist which i leaned my beliefs heavily before this pandemic occurs, i found out that all you gotta do i have a leap of faith in religion. Pessimism only adds up to your cartlist of worries so you gotta understand that.
getoverthis266 it's the flawed way of thinking. your mind deteriorates from constantly asking question. what we really need right now is do what you gotta do.
getoverthis266 ciao.
needyou Thank you!!
Seamstress I am starting to find this forum very disappointing and frustrating. It was really helping me and I was trying to help others. However, now there is so much spam or people hacking into the forum that it is adding to my stress when I come on it. Is there not a way in which this can be fixed permanently - like an anti-virus protection etc. Please try to keep an eye on this problem. Thank you.
Kiramus Anyone else struggling with false attraction feeling so real, can someone give me any tips the last things I'm struggling with is false attraction that I've NEVER had before and like memories that I've had where I had admired girls and wanted to look like them trying to trick me into believing that I was attracted to them but I know it's not true... Someone help...
Seamstress Sorry to be a bother, but are there people monitoring this forum who can fix it?
frazer123 i have fallen off hard, the ocd is causing me to have doubts about my relationship and my compulsion is to go and see her to talk about it as she always makes things better. ive now allowed the ocd too much leeway and im struggling to stop my self from going to see her as i see it as my only option. please help
Seamstress Try to resist the compulsion to seek reassurance. Seeking reassurance will feel better at first, but it will make your OCD worse in the long run. Try to disregard the thoughts to do so and focus on something else. After little while your anxiety usually decreases. That is my experience anyway.
frazer123 The idea of not being able to seek reassurance is so scary to me though, do I really have to go through this all alone?
Seamstress In my opinion it is always scary not seeking reassurance. Try postponing doing it for a little while and see if your anxiety drops a little.
NickJ055 I dated my girlfriend when we were about 18 yrs old, and didn’t feel I’m love with her, but we reconnected and are dating again (22 years old now) I love her very much and sometimes want to spend my life with her, but worry that if I didn’t love her then, I just be lying to myself now. I worry about if I just don’t want to hurt her feelings again like I did when I was younger.
NickJ055 We have talked recently about moving moving in together and the thought simultaneously fills me with joy and scares me, I worry that I’ll discover in a year or so that I really was lying to myself but then it will hurt her even more if I leave. I don’t want to leave her though, and hate myself for thinking I might.
Melissam Hi all,
Melissam I think I have pure o and have trouble falling asleep. I had to take medication to sleep and now I’m in despair. I feel like I’ll never be ok again. I obsess over sleep and have no life. I feel like I’m dying inside
Melissam I need help and encouragement. Anyone there?
Melissam Guess this forum is useless...I came on asking for help and support and I get no answer
andrey_m False memory
Joe Melissa your seeking re-assurance... You need to understand OCD will drain you, will scare you.. will take everything away from you should you let it- You need to 1. recgonize that you have OCD- 2- start the recovery road! I am always here to help.. but i will not give re-assurance.
andrey_m False memory
Jessica cool
Jessica Hiii
andrey_m Can anyone help with False Memory?
Seamstress I am beginning to wonder if I am the only one with spam on my computer re: this forum. Is this not an issue for others???
Helmut Schmacker Lol, you're not imagining things seamstress. Ali's adding moderators to the forum soon, they should be able to deal with it.
needyou I have a question
needyou Can someone help me
needyou Today I feel low...
needyou I cry all day.. I don't feel gopd
needyou Guys your ocd changes themes all the time?? Mine.. All the time changes themes especially when I start to feel relaxed. And then boom, another theme.. It's so exhausting situation. I try to not ruminate. Oh God I need so much a little bit rest...
judys Hi is anybody here?
Joe Ocd changes the a secondary for you to react- than comes back to the main- DISREGARD THE THOUGHTS NO MATTER WHAT!! I know its hard but DO NOT REACT, RUMINATE OR TOUCH IT- LEAVE IT BE and MOVE ON!
needyou You are right Joe.. I shouldn't ruminate at all...today I have stomachache from anxiety.. Why life is so hard?
needyou I'm disappointed, I had my ocd 6 years in control.. But these months I haven't control... I wish I could feel some happiness. I don't remember how it is to feel happy
Joe If you counted how many years you were happy in OCD- you never defeated OCD. You just held onto it. time to let go needyou!!

HIV OCD

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Well, I guess I'm first then 😀

My idea is to continue using my journal for tracking day to day compulsions, exposures etc and to post a general overview of my progress (or lack off) once or twice a week on here, and if I need help or advice to ask the community on the main contamination page. I hope this is an acceptable way to report my ups and downs. 

On the main page someone has kindly taken the time and trouble to provide me with a detailed roadmap,  which if I follow will lead me out of this nightmare situation. After 19 years I'm really drinking in the last chance saloon now,  I have no other choice but to follow it.

Finally, many thanks to Ali for creating this forum (not to mention all of her videos) and many thanks to all the people that have already given me help and advice on the main page, especially the author of said roadmap. See you in a few days time...

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Well, so far so good. I've been doing medium level exposures every day (taps, door handles etc), and 9 out of 10 times I have resisted washing afterwards. The most success I have had however,  has been substantially reducing the amount of time I spend ruminating after an OCD incident. I never quite realized just how much time I wasted going over and over an event,  it was a case of not being able to see the woods for the trees. For my covid-19 worries, I still find myself holding my breath quite often as I pass people,  so I will start going into town more often where it's much busier, where it will be impossible to hold my breath very often without passing out.

I haven't yet had another food or parcel delivery, they come next week. That's going to be a major challenge for me. As I will be going into town more often,  my other major challenge (with regards to my HIV OCD) will be walking past Africans,  especially difficult for me when out shopping. 

All in all I'm pleased with my progress so far, good luck to everyone else battling OCD, see you in a few days time...

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Good for you. Keep it up.

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Hello everyone, I'm just giving a little update on my progress.

Exposures for my HIV OCD are going according to plan (for a change!). I can now open and close my garden gate just several hours after a delivery has been. I know that may not sound like a big deal, but previously I would wait days, and even weeks before I was able to leave. This is major progress for me :-)I will try to reduce the time even further.

I'm also going to try eating lunch in a multicultural town next, I have to get used to being around people of all backgrounds and persuasions again,  so fingers crossed.

With regards to my fear of covid. Perhaps because it's a relatively new aspect of my OCD, reducing the fear hasn't been to difficult for me. I've come to realise that this isn't the plague we're talking about,  for most people under the age of sixty, the symptoms are similar to flu. A pain in the a$$, but not the end of the world.

Finally I'll just wish all the other OCD warriors well. We'll get there in the end 🙂

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Just a quick update on my battles with OCD. The biggest challenge I overcame was buying a sandwich in town (even that's been difficult in the past) and eating it on a park bench as people of different creeds and colours passed by. The most off putting thing was the people that coughed as they walked by and never even covered their mouths as they did so. Haven't they ever heard of Covid-19?

The one unexpected challenge I failed this week was collecting my groceries at the door from an African delivery driver. I made him put the food in the garden whilst I hid indoors. I then threw all the fresh food away as my OCD assured me that he was HIV positive. He also arrived first thing in the morning and that's usually the time my OCD goes into overdrive. I've now put that difficult day behind me however and am looking forward to overcoming more challenges this week. That's it for now folks. Good luck to all fellow OCD warriors out there,  later!

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Sounds like you are making progress and have the right attitude when you make a slip by letting it go. Keep on with your recovery work. You will make it.

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Thanks seamstress,  I appreciate the encouragement 👍. 

I did hear about an interesting report regarding covid-19, I don't know whether or not you're still worried about it? Anyway,  the report stated that people living in the same house as a person infected with covid-19,  stand a 'very good' chance of remaining covid free as long as that person is self isolating and you're taking reasonable precautions (keeping windows open, practising good hygiene etc). I know it's kind of obvious,  but having experts look at the data and verifying it is reassuring (maybe I shouldn't have mentioned it, oh well). 

Good luck with your own struggles - H

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I am doing okay and prob. the real issue is OCD and not Covid-19, although it is a concern for me and many people.  I just keep practicing ERP with all of my issues that come up- try to anyway.  ERP works for all kinds of OCD concerns.