OCD Help Chat 
Anonymous121216 hey! just wanna tell u all that i’ve reduced rumination a lot over the past week and it gets better! i thought i would never recover but i’m starting to be able to sit with the thoughts and not ruminate! it gets better and anyone can recover smile
Anonymous121354 I have maladaptive daydreaming and OCD. And I know many people who have both. Is it possible there is a link?
CuriousLady1012 I'm Anonymous121354. With maladaptive daydreaming I just go around imagining positive things. Like things I wish would happen in the future. Then sometimes while I'm imagining the positive, a negative or intrusive thought would creep in. I think spending so much time in my imagination, even positively, is what makes me end up with OCD. I've gotten a lot better with the OCD following Ali's advice
Anonymous118415 Hi guys. Just thought I'd give a bit of motivation. You can recover! No matter your theme or how severe your case is, you can do it! No matter how the thoughts come in, whether they are thoughts, feelings, sensations, urges. They can come in in any way and it's all the same thing! If it's do with your theme, it's the same thing as last time. You can do this!
Anonymous117898
Anonymous118415
Hi guys. Just thought I'd give a bit of motivation. You can recover! No matter your theme or how severe your case is, you can do it! No matter how the thoughts come in, whether they are thoughts, feelings, sensations, urges. They can come in in any way and it's all the same thing! If it's do with your theme, it's the same thing as last time. You can do this!
Thanks for the motivation I needed it x
Anonymous121410 Hey I don’t know if any of the coaches can help me with this but I’ve been practicing trying to track time and disregard thoughts, but I don’t think I’m doing it right. So my theme is Hocd/Pocd and whenever I get a thought I try to allow it to be there and not react but when I do it I usually feel like I’m gonna tear up or I just get sleepy because it’s so intense.
Anonymous121410
Anonymous121410
Hey I don’t know if any of the coaches can help me with this but I’ve been practicing trying to track time and disregard thoughts, but I don’t think I’m doing it right. So my theme is Hocd/Pocd and whenever I get a thought I try to allow it to be there and not react but when I do it I usually feel like I’m gonna tear up or I just get sleepy because it’s so intense.
So my question is what is disregarding suppose to be like and tracking time because they’re would be days where every 3 hours it’s about an hour. I also have adhd so it makes it hard for me to think about other things. That being said what do I do because this is really hard?
Anonymous121410 *every 3 hours is an hour of ruminating
Anonymous85281 But now it’s like I like my attraction to same s*x and I DONT want to be attracted to men anymore -like I would be more interested in women or something. And I’m like wtf this has never happened and idk it if it’s ocd cause normally I would say I don’t want it but why does it feel like I don’t mean it anymore
Anonymous85281 Sorry that was the second part
Anonymous85281 The first part is I don’t wandered if anyone else was going through HOCD and false attractions cause now it feels genuine and like I really am this person and that I really don’t want to get rid of the thoughts and idk what to do
Anonymous121410
Anonymous85281
The first part is I don’t wandered if anyone else was going through HOCD and false attractions cause now it feels genuine and like I really am this person and that I really don’t want to get rid of the thoughts and idk what to do
I am man it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know if I’m gay or not it’s so much and I just wish I can tell someone and I feel I lost part of myself. I know we’ll make it, if you keep working like Ali says and feel it in your heart like I do you’ll make it.
Anonymous121410
Anonymous121410
I am man it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know if I’m gay or not it’s so much and I just wish I can tell someone and I feel I lost part of myself. I know we’ll make it, if you keep working like Ali says and feel it in your heart like I do you’ll make it.
*hurts
Anonymous85281 Thanks. So you are going through the same think to? I feel like this is all my fault that I blew that one gay thought out of proportion
Anonymous121431 My thought say notice ur breathing..what can i do?what is the erp for that?
Anonymous121410
Anonymous85281
Thanks. So you are going through the same think to? I feel like this is all my fault that I blew that one gay thought out of proportion
It not your fault and yeah I have to same problem truth be told I’ve been suffering with different themes of ocd since 2019. And funny enough it started with a really small thought when I was watching tv now it’s this terrible thing where I can’t even concentrate in school, but I want my life back so here i’am
Anonymous117546 I live in a noisy neighbourhood. Whenever there is noise outside I get really nevous and start sweating. This then leads me to wash my hair which has turned into a compulsion. This happens around 3 times a day and I'm cluless on what I should do about it. In addition I can't seem to do anything when there is noise. It feels like I'm living in hell.
Anonymous121463
Anonymous117546
I live in a noisy neighbourhood. Whenever there is noise outside I get really nevous and start sweating. This then leads me to wash my hair which has turned into a compulsion. This happens around 3 times a day and I'm cluless on what I should do about it. In addition I can't seem to do anything when there is noise. It feels like I'm living in hell.
I also have noisy neighbours, but I've found a great way to cope with them. A simple white noise machine (Amazon) works wonders. I just have it on low in the background and go about my day. Sometimes I have it on in my bedroom for sleep. Works great.
Anonymous116827 At the start of my OCD homosexual theme, I was worrying about being attracted to just a normal pretty straight girl, now I know I’m not and just think they are pretty, but this has shifted to the lesbian stereotype looking girls. It’s so tiring since a lot of people look like that these days and i just need help
Anonymous85281
Anonymous116827
At the start of my OCD homosexual theme, I was worrying about being attracted to just a normal pretty straight girl, now I know I’m not and just think they are pretty, but this has shifted to the lesbian stereotype looking girls. It’s so tiring since a lot of people look like that these days and i just need help
Omg im going through the same thing! There’s a lesbian looking girl in my class and my brain is telling me I like her cause she has a haircut like I girl. The worst part is I have no anxiety. Thinking back, that type of person is THE LAST person I what to be attracted to and all I want is to be disgusted by it
Anonymous116827
Anonymous85281
Omg im going through the same thing! There’s a lesbian looking girl in my class and my brain is telling me I like her cause she has a haircut like I girl. The worst part is I have no anxiety. Thinking back, that type of person is THE LAST person I what to be attracted to and all I want is to be disgusted by it
YES. I’m sorry to anyone out there but I literallt didn’t even think those girls were pretty. In fact, they were the last people I would be attracted to. But now I’m literally so scared. I just kinda let it pass though, but it’s so annoying
Anonymous121431
Anonymous85281
Omg im going through the same thing! There’s a lesbian looking girl in my class and my brain is telling me I like her cause she has a haircut like I girl. The worst part is I have no anxiety. Thinking back, that type of person is THE LAST person I what to be attracted to and all I want is to be disgusted by it
If u are lesbian..u liked that thought..not feared about that thought..so choose to disreagrd and move on
Kevin Le is ocd a chronic mental disability
Anonymous121431 No
Anonymous119901 i am obsessing over the thought that what if i have ocd because someone set a witchcraft spell on me
Anonymous119901 like how does ocd even develop i remember the day i realized i had ocd and i was confused on how i even got it i def made ocd worse by going on and off birth control
Anonymous121623 Hello my question is that i get these type of thoughts what if i fear of clothes then what would people think. I'll look like crazy since then i got alot of these type of thoughts what if i fear form this and that .let me know is this ocd? And if yes then Should i disregard the same way in this too? 😓 by the way I've also fear of going crazy
Anonymous121623 I also wanna know how to prevent a ocd loop to happen in the beginning?
Anonymous121431 Go and watch aligremond videos on youtube
Anonymous118415 Hi does anyone else have this problem where they feel like their thoughts aren't intrusive? Like you think of them on your own mostly for ERP purposes but still, once you do recovery work they slowly get quieter and fade anyway? Hope that makes sense
Anonymous118415
Anonymous118415
Hi does anyone else have this problem where they feel like their thoughts aren't intrusive? Like you think of them on your own mostly for ERP purposes but still, once you do recovery work they slowly get quieter and fade anyway? Hope that makes sense
This isn't reassurance seeking btw, that's one compulsion I'm completely rid of, I just wondered if others went through the same experience
Anonymous115695
Anonymous118415
This isn't reassurance seeking btw, that's one compulsion I'm completely rid of, I just wondered if others went through the same experience
I’m going thru that. It’s hard to tell the difference and it’s confusing.
Anonymous118415
Anonymous115695
I’m going thru that. It’s hard to tell the difference and it’s confusing.
For me, I feel obligated to think the thoughts. I don't want to think them but it's like, I feel them coming in as like a sentence or something and then I let it in and disregard it. The more ERP I do the less thoughts I have but some of them feel intrusive and some don't which is very confusing and I'm worried it might bring on another setback
Shalonda3 How do I recover from ocd?
Anonymous115695
Anonymous118415
For me, I feel obligated to think the thoughts. I don't want to think them but it's like, I feel them coming in as like a sentence or something and then I let it in and disregard it. The more ERP I do the less thoughts I have but some of them feel intrusive and some don't which is very confusing and I'm worried it might bring on another setback
I believe they call that “checking” I’ll disregard and feel tons better then start checking my feelings and thoughts to see where I am. Then it starts over with a twist and gets me every time.
Anonymous118415
Shalonda3
How do I recover from ocd?
Let the thoughts come in with anxiety and resist doing any compulsions little by little
Anonymous121664 Hi All, I don't want to specify my OCD themes as i know my OCD will seek reassurance for that immediately. I just want to mention that I'm really going thru some hard time rn. I'm getting an intrusive thought every second & they come with severe physical symptoms like headache, toothache or body pain. My PCOS symptoms are just adding up to it. I don't know how to cope anymore. :'
Anonymous121664 I have had OCD since I was born I guess, but it elevated during my teenage horrifically. I struggled a lot since then but things got under control for a bit when I got diagnosed last year. Now I know what's bothering me but I still don't know how to deal with it properly yet.
Ali Greymond
Anonymous121664
Hi All, I don't want to specify my OCD themes as i know my OCD will seek reassurance for that immediately. I just want to mention that I'm really going thru some hard time rn. I'm getting an intrusive thought every second & they come with severe physical symptoms like headache, toothache or body pain. My PCOS symptoms are just adding up to it. I don't know how to cope anymore. :'
you need to track and reduce rumination. Let the thoughts come in but choose not to analyze them
Ali Greymond
Anonymous118415
Hi does anyone else have this problem where they feel like their thoughts aren't intrusive? Like you think of them on your own mostly for ERP purposes but still, once you do recovery work they slowly get quieter and fade anyway? Hope that makes sense
yes that's common
Ali Greymond
Anonymous121623
I also wanna know how to prevent a ocd loop to happen in the beginning?
control your reaction when a new thought pops in. Don't give it energy.
Ali Greymond
Kevin Le
is ocd a chronic mental disability
It can be if you don't do the work. So if you view it as chronic and accept that you will never get better, then you will never get better. If you work hard on recovery then you will recover. It's all in your hands. I was not ok living in OCD hell so I did the work and I recovered.
Anonymous117898 Ali recovery isn’t the same as cure so that means you still have Ocd after recovery?
Anonymous115695 I have a hard time telling the difference between my thoughts and ocd. Any advice ?
Anonymous110875
Anonymous121431
If u are lesbian..u liked that thought..not feared about that thought..so choose to disreagrd and move on
wtf are you talking about? Are you saying im a lesbian?
Shalonda3 Hi
Anonymous121332 Hello
Shalonda3 I'm new to the forum
Anonymous121755 I distinguished my feelings. Reason why I freaked out over a intrusive thought is because I never had them and it felt strong and real I really freaked out so I believed in it. The fear you get when looking you’ll recognize it as just fear it makes it seem real af.
Anonymous118635 I am an 18 year old girl.Recently I had a severe attack of ocd.I have been prone to ocd since my teenage.Basically I am a strong person compared to my mother who has been suffering ocd since the age of ten.I have been watching your videos and I hope that I will be able to recover soon.I have been cherishing a dream to become a doctor since my childhood.Can I choose the profession of a medical prac
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False Memory or Glimpses From Fugue State?

A couple of years ago, I went through a very heavy OCD-related breakdown. At the time, I was home constantly – taking school online – so I did not leave my house much and used all of that time to think pretty much.

*Let me preface this part by saying that, I am a very spiritual person and do believe in seeing “signs” from the universe or spirits. In the house I lived in prior to this, I had experiences with a haunting and it was very negative and draining for me- this is going to sound crazy, but I would use a pendulum to communicate with it whenever I felt like I needed reassurance for my OCD. When I moved a year later, I had thrown all connections to that away and tried to move on.*

Flash forward to another year of homeschool, but in the new house this time. [I was homeschooled for about 2 1/2 years due to not being able to handle going to school anymore.] I had to use my laptop for schoolwork of course, and this was at a time I was still paranoid about the spirit from my old house. Whenever I’d use it, I started to get this compulsion that I had to look for “messages” whenever I’d see a group of letters somewhere (aka, laptop). Eventually, I felt like the “messages” I was receiving started to sound too ominous regarding my OCD triggers and I took it as a reason to believe I was being told I had done something I had forgotten, and thus, needed to investigate. This didn’t just occur out of the blue and happened over a period of time where I’d “check” to see if something was telling me something.

Eventually, that morphed into me believing I was being told I had killed someone. —No voices in my head or anything like that, but basically a construction of a narrative from spiritual belief. In that year, over time, I would obsess over the news/look at cold cases/feel paranoid if a cop was behind us in the car/etc. And that turned into me having visuals added to the paranoia, along with having very very VERY strong feelings of going back to that “moment” and feeling everything you’d feel when going back to a memory. This progressed and worsened over time obviously- to the point that I felt like I was having intense flashbacks and spurts of recollection just like any memory would feel (what really boggles my mind is that I only see people with harm OCD talk about having images pop up in their mind, doubt, etc. so that sends me down another rabbit hole of worry). It genuinely concerns me that people say “but I have had no memory of this, just doubt!” when I have had moments where it definitely wasn’t just doubt (or images).

Here’s the kicker: despite feeling like I’ve had moments of realizing it’s a real memory, going back to “a” moment, feeling myself “be” there, etc — I have never once recalled any details of where I was, what exactly I was doing, what happened, or what the situation could’ve even logically looked like. And that led me down the path of worrying that I repressed a memory of harming someone.

Now, do keep in mind, I would have to have been 14 years old if this were to be a real occurrence (of me harming someone) and I was about 15-16 when I began having this false memory debacle. I say that because the only time I had harm OCD relating to murder was at 14 years old and it did heavily dissociate me, but I do not remember having any plans to go and kill someone or any desire to leave my home.

I just want to ask — has anyone had some sort of similar experience with false memories before!?? Where it feels like it takes real memory and completely fabricates a false moment? I feel so alone and lost, even almost 5 years later.

DISCLAIMER: I have received therapy for this issue, and while it has helped sometimes, I am extremely worried that he just assumes it’s like any other case — and I can’t tell if it’s not because I’ve never had anyone relate (not talking about the spiritual stuff, I am mostly speaking about the real-ness of how everything felt and how it is described). Also, no I do not have schizophrenia or anything that would cause delusions, or at least I don’t think so.

I guess what my point in posting this is — I have been on OCD forums looking for stories similar to mine (not the spiritual details or how it came to be) such as, how the “memory” feels and how my mind doesn’t even necessarily put an image next to it when I get these feelings!! I’m extremely worried (and suicidal) that I could’ve harmed someone and repressed it even though I can’t even imagine myself doing that. I want to fit into the false memory OCD label but I can’t help but feel so, so, so alone.

To make matters worse, I went on my local news website & searched cases from that time period & found a “suspicious death” which happened when I had a large gap in my Facebook activity. And it’s strange because in the months/years surrounding that, I don’t have a gap as large as that anywhere. For reference, I live in a small town so it’s hard to believe this as coincidence. My assumption is I was dissociated during those days and had an aversion to social media or something. I don’t know, I just feel like giving up.

If anybody wants to read this, please do. I’m sorry if any of this is distressing or weirds anyone out, I’m just trying to piece my life together.

 

Just made an account in case anybody sees this post and would like to message. Again, I’m sorry for any upsetting details in my story. 

Can anyone respond to this? 

Hey, im also very spiritual and understand your beliefs there and how they get super messy with OCD fears, and also false memory is my number one theme.

Repressed/ suppressed memories dont really work this way, the way OCD makes us fear.. usually we repress something if it is something bad that happened to us.. outside of that we can block out, be in denial and avoid bad memories of things we did but it would still be a there in the background as a certainty and on some level we know we are avoiding it, but we never doubt if it happened or not.

Real memory of doing something bad is not something we have to try to figure out, if anything its impossible to forget from the very moment / day it happens.
Also if you had killed somebpdy or any other horrific crime of harm.. you would natuarally go into instant flight or fight mode and realise what consequences would be coming.. you would go into panic.. almost straight away after the crime..

False memory OCD is not always just images.. it can be a sense of emotionally remembering the feeling of these moments , it can be feeling like you remember the feeling on your hands, it can be sounds, smells, facial expressions, and visions and images.. it can be all of it.. but if your still feeling like you cant figure it out, or need to try to figure it out..
then its automatically OCD, in real life you wouldnt need to figure out of it happened or not.. you would know that it did from day one.

I know how terrying this is, your not only obsessing about a past event thats horrific and bad, but also the future consequences if the thought was real.

but I promise you, its always a lie, if it was true.. you wouldnt be on this forum asking if its OCD or not..
that question “is this OCD or not.. “ automatically means it is OCD.

but no amount of reassurance from me or anybody will be enough , especially with false memory, you get reassurance on one detail and it will make the next detail feel even more real and true.

Do what Ali says, track the time, reduce rumination and within days/ weeks/ it will lose power and you will start to see it clearly.

take care

I've had the same thing, basically I can't always tell if its a real memory or not. I don't hear many people saying this but sometimes I really can't tell, and it scares me so much. I get the same as you, images, feelings, familiarity. I researched false memory and apparently when things are suggested people very commonly make up completely false memories that they believe are 100% true (but are completely made up) and I think OCD people can do that to themselves.

The thing is, there is no way to know, and we have to live with the uncertainty and the good thing is, every time I reduce my OCD I look at the bigger picture my brain switches over to "mehwho cares, maybe you did, but its unlikely" because its almost like my confidence in who I am comes back and after the OCD goes, and then I know I'm not a horrible person. It's strange. I'm in a false memory OCD right now and it's awful. 

Also, I would steer clear of that new agey spiritual stuff. In therapy I was told I can either believe in Law of Attraction or have OCD. You just can't have the belief that your thoughts are causing things to happen magically....LOA is literally OCD imo. Maybe that's not what you are into but I don't think talking to "spirits" is helping you in any way. 

One thing that really helps me when nothing else will, is exposure by writing down my fears. It helps a lot, I have to start doing it again. I was stuck in really bad false memory stuff and I would write it out on paper like "worried i did X" "worried my memory of X is real and feel X" write a decent amount of detail and face it, write a list about feeling, worries, images, what you think you did. You're already thinking it anyway. Then burn it or shred it or whatever you want to do (I had a fireplace). THEN use Alis meathod of not ruminating. She also recommends the writing thing. It does help a ton.  I used to do this 2x per day if i was really bad. I also tracked while trying not to ruminate, it makes you aware of when you start to ruminate, so then you can stop. I'd just allow the anxiety, thoughts and try to listen to a podcast that I was interested in. I'd suggest finding Ali's video for instruction on this, I'm not a professional so I don't want to make anyone worse, it just worked for me.

Some physical things can help like Ali says, waking up no later than 9. I find getting a good hour or two of sunlight helps, light actually signals our body to make certain hormones and can lower cortisol later in the day having just 20min of outdoor light in the morning. Best to get it within 30min after waking.

Hope this helps and you feel better soon!