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Anonymous178858 What type of ocd is edging? Masturbating and stopping right before o****m?
Anonymous178858 Looking for a therapist who can help me.
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
I seem to go up and down. Some days hardly any OCD thoughts and some days quite a few. Not sure why I can't just be done with OCD. Seem to hang unto it for some reason of course because of fear - the main reason I think that we all have OCD in one way or another. Hard not to beat myself up over it.
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Would you guys recommend me to stop reading news article or news videos revolved around my ocd theme to help make the thoughts go away or would that count as avoidance?
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
I asked Ali the same question a little while ago and she suggested using the triggering articles as exposure and response therapy and after a while they will not bother you as much and then you can read the whole article for erp. I believe that is what she meant anyway.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Yes, I have considered it. Will think more about it.
Anonymous178601 Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Well done for reducing the time you spent ruminating, if you can stay motivated I'm sure you'll reduce it even further. Tracking can be a pain in the b**t when the thoughts are 24/7, but you're doing great. Keep going, amigo!
Anonymous178601 Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
Anonymous178601 Its as if my ocd is trying to scare me again like my thoughts switch and then from time to time an article or video that i saw is brought up
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
My initial impression is that you may be spending to much time on the exposures(if watching vids and reading are the exposures)and not enough time doing the response prevention part. Once you start feeling that anxiety then it's time to go about your day,disregarding OCD thoughts(easy right).If you spend a lot of time reading and watching videos, then naturally these will be on your mind
Anonymous178601 Thank you yeah I have been spending a lot of time watching and reading and I disregard the thoughts but they start to change theme and go through everything that I have watched and read as well
Anonymous178601 However I still disregard for the whole day sometimes i end up doing a compulsion or rumminition but its getting better I believe but I just wanted to be sure that was something that tends to happen within an ocd theme I appreciate you guys
Anonymous178873 Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
Seamstress
Anonymous178873
Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
OCD can play many tricks and give you thoughts, urges and various physical symptoms. Don't try to figure out it all out, which is ruminating. Choose to disregard or the thoughts etc. will increase. Try to "nip it in the bud" so to speak.
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Anonymous178601 Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
Anonymous178601 And then there are other times I get anxiety
Anonymous177485
Anonymous178601
And then there are other times I get anxiety
Yeah sometimes I nervously laugh
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
I am not sure that there is anything wrong with laughing at the thought.
Anonymous178984 Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Seamstress
Anonymous178984
Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Try not to pay attention to it and go on with your day. Have you watched Ali's videos. Many, many on this subject.
Anonymous179000 If you think about a memory and try really hard to remember but never actually remember or feel confident about doing it other than vague a scenario, that usually means it's Not Real right? Because I have False Memory OCD connected to something I did in the past and I have gone through it extensively, but I can't ever truly have a certain memory of the thing I fear I did
Anonymous179000 Just vague images and feelings that I did do it, sometimes I think "I would never do that" and sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been so easy, but then I think I would never do it because of certain reasons, but then I feel like I'm applying my currently logic to my past logic that didn't know any better, and it's eating away at me.
Anonymous179000 I have gone through almost every single possibly scenerio in which I could have done it, but I never get a Real Memory of it, I also feel like I wouldn't just forget that I did it, but sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been that easy for me to have done it so my brain tells me I would've done it if given the opportunity, but at the same time it's not something I would just do
Anonymous179000 I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
You are ruminating. You are safe to disregard. The more you try to figure it out the worse it will get. Difficult but you need to not pay attention to these thoughts. OCD always feels so real. OCD always attacks the areas that mean the most to us. Try to do something now that will refocus your mind.
Anonymous179000 If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
Anonymous178601 Does Ocd get bad for anyone else at night. Like I am able to disregard all day and the thoughts become less frequent as well but whenever I try to shut my eyes to sleep. The thoughts are like not tonight hombre. Other nights I am good like the past two nights were really good for some reason other nights are not.
Anonymous178601 I also want to mention. That I am really sleepy at this times I want to close my eyes and just go to sleep but the thoughts are persistent and keep me awake until 1 or 2 and then I just pass out
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
You are still ruminating and seeking reassurance. You need to not pay attention to the thoughts. Difficult I know.
Anonymous179038 hello. is anyone online?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
hello. is anyone online?
How can I help?
Anonymous178601 How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
I am not sure that I know the answer to that as that is not something I have dealt with in my own life. Not sure we have much control over our dreams, but I would think that the more OCD lessens during the day perhaps less dreams. The main thing I would think would be to accept that you have them but don't focus on the content.
Anonymous179038 i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Just keep doing what you are doing by disregarding. Eventually sensations should lessen if you don't focus on them.
Anonymous179038 okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Sounds like it might be your OCD reminding you of it, trying to get you back into ruminating. Treat like OCD and disregard. OCD has many tricks.
Anonymous179038 thank you. will do that
Anonymous179038 also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
I think it is hard most times until brain starts to change. Keep up your recovery. We can all do it!
Anonymous179059 What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
I mean how can someone be straight if he was jerking to dicks an was aroused by these thoughts? I never ever chased men in real life or thought about doing something with their dicks but like I said in certain situations I was turned on by them. In Real Life I only was turned on by girls not one time by men. It feels like before puberty I was gay, in puberty straight then.
Helmut Schmacker Afternoon chaps, how's it going today?
Anonymous179093 Can someone help me please how to deal with these memories
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Recovery Tips For ROCD and all types of OCD themes

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Hello Everyone.

I have been doing recovery work/ERP for ROCD for around 9 months now.

If you are reading this I'm guessing you discovered Ali's videos on OCD recovery via YouTube, which is exactly where I was fortunate enough to discover Ali Greymond too.

When I first discovered Ali's OCD recovery I was in a mess, I had reoccurring intrusive thoughts that I didn't love my partner anymore, these thoughts were accompanied by extreme anxiety (what Ali would call a level 10) , I would sit and Google my symptoms to try work out what was happening to me, I'd sit and ruminate over my scary ROCD thoughts all day, I couldn't concentrate on anything else, I couldn't sleep, I felt the need to confress my thoughts to my partner which always ended up with me going into a full blown panic attack and me being in tears. Sadly my ROCD got me to rock bottom, I was having suicidal thoughts, I thought I was losing my mind, and I thought the only way to get better was to runaway and leave my partner and family. It was a very disturbing and frightening period of my life and if any of the above is what you are going through then I genuinely do understand and sympathize what a living hell you are experiencing. But don't you worry! I'm here to tell you that EVERY single thought, negative emotion, feeling, break up urge etc that ROCD is repeatedly telling you IS A LIE!.

Now as I said earlier I'm 9 months into recovery work and I can honestly say that the advice Ali Greymond gives via her YouTube channel really does work and YOU CAN OVERCOME ROCD!

OK, so I watched Ali's videos on the first two stages of OCD recovery, I watched her videos on living parallel to the the thoughts, her videos on YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS! and I chose to not just listen to her but actually take her advice and DO ERP every single day with EVERY ROCD LIE that it threw at me!

So this is how I did it, my ROCD would tell me "YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR PARTNER ANYMORE!" so in my head Is reply to ROCD by saying VERY SARCASTICALLY "YEP THATS RIGHT OCD , DONT LOVE MY PARTNER OF COURSE I DONT!" by doing this it slowly starts to take away the fear and anxiety that the thought has been given you, it's not a quick fix and at first your anxiety levels may rise but that's ok and normal, you just need to sit with the anxiety and not react with fear, as you continue this method of ERP you will find the thoughts still come but not as often and they are less and less powerful, over time and repeated hard work of ERP and disregarding the thought as just a OCD lie you will eventually start to feel a little better until one day you will be laughing at the thoughts that OCD tells you. It is hard work, you will be tired and there will be setbacks but that's ok and normal in the recovery process, but eventually you will get there!.

Also it's true as you overcome one thought/theme OCD tries to switch thoughts/themes on you this happened to me in the first 3 months of recovery but again no matter what lies OCD throws at you you just need to stay strong and use the sarcastic agreeing ERP technique you used for your original thoughts and again you will get there.

Also any emotions/feelings that you experience is just part of OCD symptoms, they may feel super real but they are just more of OCD lies and you need to disregard and push through them, its hard but you can do it! I DID AND SO CAN YOU!!

As I said Im 9 months into recovery and on the whole I'm about 90% recovered. I occasionally get the thoughts but now push through and I'm ok, still using ERP but I'm doing ALOT BETTER and I'M STILL WITH MY PARTNER AND I KNOW I LOVE HER!!! LIFE IS PRETTY DAMN GOOD AGAIN!!!

I hope this helps anyone suffering, listen to Ali's advice, use ERP, keep pushing through and disregarding all of OCD lies/symptoms no matter what it tells you and how it real it feels I promise you OCD is nothing but a bully and a liar and YOU CAN OVERCOME IT!!!

STAY STRONG AND GOOD LUCK!!

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Thanks for sharing. These techniques work for every type of OCD.

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hey, thank you so much for sharing. when you say disregard the thoughts as just an ocd lie (I know my thoughts are lies despite how real they may feel), what does that actually look like? as in what should my thought process be in that moment? once I have mocked the thought in question should I then push it out of my mind or do something else? I hope that makes sense, thank you again for sharing. 

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Thank you all for sharing! I am wondering the same thing! I disregard or say “nice try ocd” like Ali always says, but then what should I aim to think about instead? I’ve struggled with this my whole life, and have spent most of my life ruminating, looking for things to feel guilty about and trying to solve whatever it was, endlessly. So naturally, I don’t know what I should be thinking about normally. Any suggestions outside of breathing techniques? Hopefully that makes sense!

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Hi , once you get into the healthy habit of sarcastically disregarding the thought , the actual thoughts themselves eventually come less often, you may find you have minutes then hours then days where you don't have the thoughts. In my experience some days disregarding is easy and you find yourself laughing at how silly the OCD thoughts are, other days even though your actively disregarding the thoughts can come alot but your anxiety is still pretty low, some days despite you disregarding the thoughts can bombard you but again with little anxiety. The secret here is to accept you are still in recovery and this is normal, just keep disregarding and pushing through. As for where your mind should be after you disregard, don't try to push the thoughts out, just let them come in and keep sarcastically agreeing with them, it's not about what you should be thinking more about just trying to live your life as if you didn't have OCD, so for example my ROCD would say "you don't love your partner and you can't enjoy time with them so you have to leave them" so I'd be like "of course your right OCD, that's so true, just like all the other lies you've told me, infact I don't love my partner or anybody at all, jeez you really are a fountain of truth and wisdom aren't you OCD" then follow it up by doing the exact opposite of what OCD is telling you. So I'd spend quality time with my partner, maybe play a game, go for a walk together, basically just have fun together. The OCD thoughts will still pop up but just keep disregarding, it is hard and abit scary at first but with hard work it just gets easier and easier and you will find yourself having great quality OCD free time with your partner.

 

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I had this exact experience and contemplated suicide. It was the scariest, darkest, worst nightmare of my life. for months I laid in bed from morning until night crying compulsively to relieve the pain of intrusive thoughts. I wanted to live on an island. I wanted to die. 

GUESS WHAT?

I started doing ERP with a therapist, after learning a lot from Ali, I found help. 2 months ago I could not be around my fiancé. Now I see him, I still get a twinge of anxiety ,do ERP, and go on with my day. It is not perfect but please understand I was living a daily hell and I went from a level 10 to a 2 in weeks. 

I know there is more work to be done, because I still live in slight fear of intrusive thoughts, or what if I freak out again, etc. But I just wanted to say that ERP has changed my life. It is the scariest thing ever, but it works. Do it. 

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Hi! I'm going through this and it's awful... everytime I talk about it I want to cry so much because it hurts me so much the fact that I'm actually thinking these things about my boyfriend, the person I love the most! I'm so so so happy with him, every single moment, every single time, kiss, hug... he's everything I ever ever wanted e our connection is so beautiful that I just cannot simply understand why this happens. Maybe it's exactly because of that... he's e our relationship is so important to me that I cannot just accept them... I dont know but I just dont. The thoughts switch every single time but all of them are related to us. Anxiety never lows to less than 7 or 8, it everytime high. I cannot eat, I cannot concentrate, I cannot be me. All thoughts are negative, all thoughts create doubts that I never had about him or us because I love him so much.... I know relationships have difficulties, some days we feel a lot and some days we feel less, somedays are bored ans some days are not and thats absolutely NORMAL... it seems like theses thoughts make these normals things like catastrophes and I know it's not. It's normal and that does not mean we dont love each other because we do. So much. We're so beautiful together. The things I feel with him are the most beautiful feelings e emotions in the world and I wont let these stupid thoughts come in the middle of our beautiful story. Sometimes I'm fine and they come like ''see, you are not thinking about it, you are not feeling anything, this is all true, you're in denial, you're gonna hurt him and you" and I just panic, because it's all too much too handle that even knowing it's irrational I cannot just let it go, my brain sticks in it. I hate it because they all create doubts that dont existe, feelings and emotions that are negative, thoughts thoughts and thoughts and none of them are true. I hate this situation so much. I know I can overcome it and I will overcome it, for me, for him and for us. I won't lose the love of m life because of this, despite sometimes it tells me I'm in denial when I'm not. I just love him, love us, love everything we have and the beautiful life we're creating. I won't let this ruin it, I wont. I love him so much it hurts... in a good way. Thanks for sharing hope, we can do it.