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Anonymous178858 Looking for a therapist who can help me.
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
I seem to go up and down. Some days hardly any OCD thoughts and some days quite a few. Not sure why I can't just be done with OCD. Seem to hang unto it for some reason of course because of fear - the main reason I think that we all have OCD in one way or another. Hard not to beat myself up over it.
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Would you guys recommend me to stop reading news article or news videos revolved around my ocd theme to help make the thoughts go away or would that count as avoidance?
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
I asked Ali the same question a little while ago and she suggested using the triggering articles as exposure and response therapy and after a while they will not bother you as much and then you can read the whole article for erp. I believe that is what she meant anyway.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Yes, I have considered it. Will think more about it.
Anonymous178601 Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Well done for reducing the time you spent ruminating, if you can stay motivated I'm sure you'll reduce it even further. Tracking can be a pain in the b**t when the thoughts are 24/7, but you're doing great. Keep going, amigo!
Anonymous178601 Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
Anonymous178601 Its as if my ocd is trying to scare me again like my thoughts switch and then from time to time an article or video that i saw is brought up
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
My initial impression is that you may be spending to much time on the exposures(if watching vids and reading are the exposures)and not enough time doing the response prevention part. Once you start feeling that anxiety then it's time to go about your day,disregarding OCD thoughts(easy right).If you spend a lot of time reading and watching videos, then naturally these will be on your mind
Anonymous178601 Thank you yeah I have been spending a lot of time watching and reading and I disregard the thoughts but they start to change theme and go through everything that I have watched and read as well
Anonymous178601 However I still disregard for the whole day sometimes i end up doing a compulsion or rumminition but its getting better I believe but I just wanted to be sure that was something that tends to happen within an ocd theme I appreciate you guys
Anonymous178873 Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
Seamstress
Anonymous178873
Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
OCD can play many tricks and give you thoughts, urges and various physical symptoms. Don't try to figure out it all out, which is ruminating. Choose to disregard or the thoughts etc. will increase. Try to "nip it in the bud" so to speak.
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Anonymous178601 Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
Anonymous178601 And then there are other times I get anxiety
Anonymous177485
Anonymous178601
And then there are other times I get anxiety
Yeah sometimes I nervously laugh
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
I am not sure that there is anything wrong with laughing at the thought.
Anonymous178984 Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Seamstress
Anonymous178984
Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Try not to pay attention to it and go on with your day. Have you watched Ali's videos. Many, many on this subject.
Anonymous179000 If you think about a memory and try really hard to remember but never actually remember or feel confident about doing it other than vague a scenario, that usually means it's Not Real right? Because I have False Memory OCD connected to something I did in the past and I have gone through it extensively, but I can't ever truly have a certain memory of the thing I fear I did
Anonymous179000 Just vague images and feelings that I did do it, sometimes I think "I would never do that" and sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been so easy, but then I think I would never do it because of certain reasons, but then I feel like I'm applying my currently logic to my past logic that didn't know any better, and it's eating away at me.
Anonymous179000 I have gone through almost every single possibly scenerio in which I could have done it, but I never get a Real Memory of it, I also feel like I wouldn't just forget that I did it, but sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been that easy for me to have done it so my brain tells me I would've done it if given the opportunity, but at the same time it's not something I would just do
Anonymous179000 I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
You are ruminating. You are safe to disregard. The more you try to figure it out the worse it will get. Difficult but you need to not pay attention to these thoughts. OCD always feels so real. OCD always attacks the areas that mean the most to us. Try to do something now that will refocus your mind.
Anonymous179000 If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
Anonymous178601 Does Ocd get bad for anyone else at night. Like I am able to disregard all day and the thoughts become less frequent as well but whenever I try to shut my eyes to sleep. The thoughts are like not tonight hombre. Other nights I am good like the past two nights were really good for some reason other nights are not.
Anonymous178601 I also want to mention. That I am really sleepy at this times I want to close my eyes and just go to sleep but the thoughts are persistent and keep me awake until 1 or 2 and then I just pass out
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
You are still ruminating and seeking reassurance. You need to not pay attention to the thoughts. Difficult I know.
Anonymous179038 hello. is anyone online?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
hello. is anyone online?
How can I help?
Anonymous178601 How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
I am not sure that I know the answer to that as that is not something I have dealt with in my own life. Not sure we have much control over our dreams, but I would think that the more OCD lessens during the day perhaps less dreams. The main thing I would think would be to accept that you have them but don't focus on the content.
Anonymous179038 i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Just keep doing what you are doing by disregarding. Eventually sensations should lessen if you don't focus on them.
Anonymous179038 okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Sounds like it might be your OCD reminding you of it, trying to get you back into ruminating. Treat like OCD and disregard. OCD has many tricks.
Anonymous179038 thank you. will do that
Anonymous179038 also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
I think it is hard most times until brain starts to change. Keep up your recovery. We can all do it!
Anonymous179059 What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
I mean how can someone be straight if he was jerking to dicks an was aroused by these thoughts? I never ever chased men in real life or thought about doing something with their dicks but like I said in certain situations I was turned on by them. In Real Life I only was turned on by girls not one time by men. It feels like before puberty I was gay, in puberty straight then.
Helmut Schmacker Afternoon chaps, how's it going today?
Anonymous179093 Can someone help me please how to deal with these memories
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous179093
Can someone help me please how to deal with these memories
Are you the HOCD sufferer above, worried about your childhood memories?
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Ocd on my Mum!!!!

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Ocd aimed at my mom! once the thought came to me suddenly I don’t love her (we are always very close and best friends with her) I felt scared! Since then, the terrible enviable period has begun! fear reached 10 out of 10 !! I cry every day, all emotions and feelings for her are gone! what if I really stopped loving my mom? but this cannot be !! every time you do not love her feelings, what if you want not to communicate with her at all and to see her! and where have feelings for her gone? they seem to be frozen !! I'm in a panic and hysterical !!! help !!!!

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Yup. OCD. Firstly thoughts are thoughts. You need to read Made of Millions, IOCDF, and OCD UK webpages on what obsessions are and what compulsions are. How ocd manifests and how it’s treated. This will help you understand that ocd is a behavior disorder and that the theme and thought content is useless to the fear center of you brain. If you are in the states you can reach out to NOCD, outside the states Better Help. Ali also take patients but it’s important to remember that until you stop taking this thought seriously, or anything that accompanies this thought, it will only reenforce to your fear center of the brain that it is important. It’s known as the ocd cycle or the ocd trap. Watch Ali’s videos and start ERP ASAP. Best wishes. 

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I will link them here but I want to stress that people have had ocd about contamination, if they are homosexual, a pedophile, attracted to their family members, are murders, have schizophrenia, love their spouse, are psychopaths, how to blink, noticing their heart rate, that they have a nose! The theme content doesn’t matter!!!!! All that matters is what thoughts, urges, images, feelings, etc distress you (are intrusive) bc those are obsessions and what you do in response to reduce the doubt, uncertainty, fear, shame, guilt, anxiety, tension etc. bc those are compulsions. Again. The. Thought. Content. Is. Irrelevant!!!!!! Learn about OCD bc that’s all it is. Then start recovery work. You are not alone, you are not the first, this will not be forever!!!! 

https://www.madeofmillions.com/conditions/obsessive-compulsive-disorder

https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/

https://www.ocduk.org/ocd/introduction-to-ocd/

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UC1qeEI9khAj7YpYXUDuADIw

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Hi, 

Your feelings for your mom are not gone. 🙂

It just seems like they're gone because you're constantly ruminating about it and that's the thing with anxiety and OCD, it feels so real that it actually freezes our feelings and emotions like they're gone. Our body, emotions, sensations and feelings will responde to whatever the brains tells them. Have you already notice that when you're happy, you just see the world, everything and everyone beautifully wonderful? That's the same thing. 

Then when that happens and you're scared, you start to ruminate and to check if you feel or if you don't feel and even if you do that reassurance just mentally it doesn't work, it has the reverse effect. So you will not feel what you're expecting to feel (because love is not something you see and measure, it's a group of beautiful things, choices and emotions that sometimes you cannot really FEEL in the way OCD is trying to tell you should feel, which doesn't mean you're not feeling or that you don't love) it's aldo a compulsion. 

You just need to figure out what's the best way for you do exposure yourself to that feelings, I know it's hard and that you don't want to think that way about your mom but that's de answer to all this just go away (I also hate the fact that I do think similar things that you think about my boyfriend, it just hurts me so much because I love him so much) but that's how anxiety and ocd work, these little devils will do ANYTHING to make you believe what they're telling just because you got scared at first time and that just triggered the danger threat when there's no danger at all. Also look for therapy. Hope you'll do better, we're together on this. 🙂