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Anonymous178858 Looking for a therapist who can help me.
Helmut Schmacker
Seamstress
I seem to go up and down. Some days hardly any OCD thoughts and some days quite a few. Not sure why I can't just be done with OCD. Seem to hang unto it for some reason of course because of fear - the main reason I think that we all have OCD in one way or another. Hard not to beat myself up over it.
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Would you guys recommend me to stop reading news article or news videos revolved around my ocd theme to help make the thoughts go away or would that count as avoidance?
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
I'll be back online a little later, if you're still looking for advice then I'll try to help. If Seamstress returns I would definitely ask her for help. She probably knows more about this condition than anyone else on the forum.
I asked Ali the same question a little while ago and she suggested using the triggering articles as exposure and response therapy and after a while they will not bother you as much and then you can read the whole article for erp. I believe that is what she meant anyway.
Seamstress
Helmut Schmacker
Don't be to hard on yourself. It's easy to feel weary and frustrated after you've suffered for so long. How do you feel about coaching? Having somebody there to push you each day and hold you accountable could be enough to get you over the finishing line. If that's not an option maybe a support buddy could help?
Yes, I have considered it. Will think more about it.
Anonymous178601 Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you guys! I will continue with the articles and videos then. I just want to get rid of this thoughts. I have Pure o but it has never been this bad.
Well done for reducing the time you spent ruminating, if you can stay motivated I'm sure you'll reduce it even further. Tracking can be a pain in the b**t when the thoughts are 24/7, but you're doing great. Keep going, amigo!
Anonymous178601 Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
Anonymous178601 Its as if my ocd is trying to scare me again like my thoughts switch and then from time to time an article or video that i saw is brought up
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous178601
Thank you, amigo hopefully we all get recovered here soon and move on from this. However one last question for the day can articles and videos that you read be brought up by your ocd like they just keep replaying on what you read and saw. Like I mentioned it was never this bad so I never really put too much attention to it but ones I started doing erp all of that is brought up.
My initial impression is that you may be spending to much time on the exposures(if watching vids and reading are the exposures)and not enough time doing the response prevention part. Once you start feeling that anxiety then it's time to go about your day,disregarding OCD thoughts(easy right).If you spend a lot of time reading and watching videos, then naturally these will be on your mind
Anonymous178601 Thank you yeah I have been spending a lot of time watching and reading and I disregard the thoughts but they start to change theme and go through everything that I have watched and read as well
Anonymous178601 However I still disregard for the whole day sometimes i end up doing a compulsion or rumminition but its getting better I believe but I just wanted to be sure that was something that tends to happen within an ocd theme I appreciate you guys
Anonymous178873 Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
Seamstress
Anonymous178873
Hi, I have a question regarding OCD. Can it make you give into an urge? Like lets say for example I have the sudden thought of "don't clench your fists as hard as you can" out of nowhere. And then that brings a sensation to my hands, and it almost compels me to do that action. Well, what happens if you were to actually go through with it? Is it still OCD or just me at that point?
OCD can play many tricks and give you thoughts, urges and various physical symptoms. Don't try to figure out it all out, which is ruminating. Choose to disregard or the thoughts etc. will increase. Try to "nip it in the bud" so to speak.
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Anonymous178601 Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
Anonymous178601 And then there are other times I get anxiety
Anonymous177485
Anonymous178601
And then there are other times I get anxiety
Yeah sometimes I nervously laugh
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
Do you guys ever laugh at the ocd thoughts like you catch and then your like wtf what kind of dumb thing is that lol. I know I am supposed to ignore it but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the thought saying like seriously ocd wtf.
I am not sure that there is anything wrong with laughing at the thought.
Anonymous178984 Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Seamstress
Anonymous178984
Hey guys,so what should I do whenever an ocd thoughts comes up?
Try not to pay attention to it and go on with your day. Have you watched Ali's videos. Many, many on this subject.
Anonymous179000 If you think about a memory and try really hard to remember but never actually remember or feel confident about doing it other than vague a scenario, that usually means it's Not Real right? Because I have False Memory OCD connected to something I did in the past and I have gone through it extensively, but I can't ever truly have a certain memory of the thing I fear I did
Anonymous179000 Just vague images and feelings that I did do it, sometimes I think "I would never do that" and sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been so easy, but then I think I would never do it because of certain reasons, but then I feel like I'm applying my currently logic to my past logic that didn't know any better, and it's eating away at me.
Anonymous179000 I have gone through almost every single possibly scenerio in which I could have done it, but I never get a Real Memory of it, I also feel like I wouldn't just forget that I did it, but sometimes I feel like I did, because it would've been that easy for me to have done it so my brain tells me I would've done it if given the opportunity, but at the same time it's not something I would just do
Anonymous179000 I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
I Feel like I'm Losing My Mind, I don't know what's Real and what's Not
You are ruminating. You are safe to disregard. The more you try to figure it out the worse it will get. Difficult but you need to not pay attention to these thoughts. OCD always feels so real. OCD always attacks the areas that mean the most to us. Try to do something now that will refocus your mind.
Anonymous179000 If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
Anonymous178601 Does Ocd get bad for anyone else at night. Like I am able to disregard all day and the thoughts become less frequent as well but whenever I try to shut my eyes to sleep. The thoughts are like not tonight hombre. Other nights I am good like the past two nights were really good for some reason other nights are not.
Anonymous178601 I also want to mention. That I am really sleepy at this times I want to close my eyes and just go to sleep but the thoughts are persistent and keep me awake until 1 or 2 and then I just pass out
Seamstress
Anonymous179000
If I can't truly remember a certain or clear memory even after thinking about all the different scenarios that it could've happened, it's most likely not real right?
You are still ruminating and seeking reassurance. You need to not pay attention to the thoughts. Difficult I know.
Anonymous179038 hello. is anyone online?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
hello. is anyone online?
How can I help?
Anonymous178601 How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
Seamstress
Anonymous178601
How long do dreams of your ocd theme stick around? I am just tired of them and want them to stop happening.
I am not sure that I know the answer to that as that is not something I have dealt with in my own life. Not sure we have much control over our dreams, but I would think that the more OCD lessens during the day perhaps less dreams. The main thing I would think would be to accept that you have them but don't focus on the content.
Anonymous179038 i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
i have bodily sensation ocd and i'm too focused on my genital area with the sensation are. sometimes i work best with disregard, sometimes i can't. any advice?
Just keep doing what you are doing by disregarding. Eventually sensations should lessen if you don't focus on them.
Anonymous179038 okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
okay will do. i have another question. sometimes, my brain will remind me of my ocd and sensations like "hey, its been a year and you still have this" and it makes me really scared. is it normal that my brain would remind me that way?
Sounds like it might be your OCD reminding you of it, trying to get you back into ruminating. Treat like OCD and disregard. OCD has many tricks.
Anonymous179038 thank you. will do that
Anonymous179038 also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
Seamstress
Anonymous179038
also, why disregarding hard sometimes?
I think it is hard most times until brain starts to change. Keep up your recovery. We can all do it!
Anonymous179059 What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
What is stopping me from recovery are my childhood memories. Every time HOCD comes back I try to fight it by avoiding doing compulsions and not analysing but some childhood memories, where for example I was looking at men in underwear (which I was turned on by then?) or masturbating to solo jerking off videos one or multiple times when I was young (12), are producing extreme anxiety
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
Anonymous179059
Anonymous179059
I remember well when I was about 10 me and a friend read a book about sexual things. There was a passage where it said something like„when the p***s gets aroused more and more there happens e*********n“. I remember being turned on by that thought and even masturbating to it later. This is the thought that by far is producing the most anxiety and is like a 100% proof that I‘m at least bi. I
I mean how can someone be straight if he was jerking to dicks an was aroused by these thoughts? I never ever chased men in real life or thought about doing something with their dicks but like I said in certain situations I was turned on by them. In Real Life I only was turned on by girls not one time by men. It feels like before puberty I was gay, in puberty straight then.
Helmut Schmacker Afternoon chaps, how's it going today?
Anonymous179093 Can someone help me please how to deal with these memories
Helmut Schmacker
Anonymous179093
Can someone help me please how to deal with these memories
Are you the HOCD sufferer above, worried about your childhood memories?
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Hi everyone, I have ROCD, I found it out 6 months ago and did few things to heal. Now I am way way better than I was and have many good days. I sometimes feel so good that I think I beated the OCD. However, there is one thing that keeps happening and I am confused. I get trigger by some things that my partner does, I don't feel anxious, I feel very hurt and angry, and I feel like I want to move out, but just in that moment. In a few hours I feel better. But in the moment I cry and express my pain to the partner and often it becomes an argument. It is very hard for me to differentiate where I am overreacting and where I have a right to be angry and hurt. For example, my pertner decided to try a diet without really talking much to me, and cooked things that I avoiding eating. I felt so hurt, he didn't think about my needs, we had a system in place, I asked him about it and we decided to cook separately, I feel like we are some kind of roommates, that he cares about himself more than our relationship, that we will never be able to have meals together. Event thought he said he just wants to try it for a couple weeks, and also he said he can cancel it if it hurts me so much, and apologised for being inconsiderate. But. I want to be supportive, and let him do his thing. Anyways, is this OCD ?? My reaction? I felt incredibly hurt. It is hard to recognise now when there is no anxiety anymore. Does anyone has this experience? What should I do? It is extremely hard not to react in the moment like that. Maybe it is not OCD and I need to look into different type of therapy??

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Hi everyone, I have ROCD, I found it out 6 months ago and did few things to heal. Now I am way way better than I was and have many good days. I sometimes feel so good that I think I beated the OCD. However, there is one thing that keeps happening and I am confused. I get trigger by some things that my partner does, I don't feel anxious, I feel very hurt and angry, and I feel like I want to move out, but just in that moment. In a few hours I feel better. But in the moment I cry and express my pain to the partner and often it becomes an argument. It is very hard for me to differentiate where I am overreacting and where I have a right to be angry and hurt. For example, my pertner decided to try a diet without really talking much to me, and cooked things that I avoiding eating. I felt so hurt, he didn't think about my needs, we had a system in place, I asked him about it and we decided to cook separately, I feel like we are some kind of roommates, that he cares about himself more than our relationship, that we will never be able to have meals together. Event thought he said he just wants to try it for a couple weeks, and also he said he can cancel it if it hurts me so much, and apologised for being inconsiderate. But. I want to be supportive, and let him do his thing. Anyways, is this OCD ?? My reaction? I felt incredibly hurt. It is hard to recognise now when there is no anxiety anymore. Does anyone has this experience? What should I do? It is extremely hard not to react in the moment like that. Maybe it is not OCD and I need to look into different type of therapy??

Hi! 

Yes, definitely it's part of anxiety/OCD. The fact that you're doing better (I'm happy for you :)) doesn't mean you're recover because recover takes some time, different for everybody of course but it takes. So it's normal that in the recovery process the intrusive thoughts/feelings just change, you know? Anxiety and OCD it trying to get you attention again. Probably in that moments you feel angry, hurt or irritated you know that it's really not a big deal as anxiety and OCD is making you feel. As you told, you want to be supportive, right? You know in your deep heart that's really not a big deal, that doesn't mean your partner is not thinking about you or that your partner doesn't care or doesn't love you, it means your partner is doing something for him and that's ok (as you like to do some things he also doesn't like but he supports you, right?). 

So my point is: yes, it's part of OCD, it changes the things from time to time when we're getting recovered from some thoughts and feelings (intrusive) so that it can captivate our attention again. I also have that feeling with my boyfriend sometime, normal things that in my head they're like "red flags" and irritate/hurt me a lot, when they're actually normal things , you know? 

Probably if we didn't suffer from OCD we would be like "oh that's a little annoying but that's fine", you know? It's not because that small things that you really want to break up or whatever with your partner. It's OCD cycle, it is very smart (little devil!). 

That fact that you feel sad and whatever it's related in how OCD is making you see the things, you know, like red flags and really baaaad things and they're not. I knwo it's hard to come up with this for us that are suffering (as I said I also have those moments like you do. sometimes I freak out then I breath and I'm like "ok, I passed through this already, just breath").

Also, in a relationship it's normal arguing sometimes, it's normal getting sad or irritated or whatever, it doesn't have to be perfect all the time. We just need EVEN IN THAT moments, respect our partners, remember why we're with them in the first place, why we share beautiful moments with them, why all that is worth it and then choosing to continue loving despite everything. 

I know OCD makes us feel and think like it's not that's why it all seems so real. I'm sure you're not always positive minded in your job for example and that doesn't mean you want to quit (just an example). 

You should talk with your therapist about that too. Open up your heart. But that's normal, yes. 

A hug from Portugal!

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Hi everyone, I have ROCD, I found it out 6 months ago and did few things to heal. Now I am way way better than I was and have many good days. I sometimes feel so good that I think I beated the OCD. However, there is one thing that keeps happening and I am confused. I get trigger by some things that my partner does, I don't feel anxious, I feel very hurt and angry, and I feel like I want to move out, but just in that moment. In a few hours I feel better. But in the moment I cry and express my pain to the partner and often it becomes an argument. It is very hard for me to differentiate where I am overreacting and where I have a right to be angry and hurt. For example, my pertner decided to try a diet without really talking much to me, and cooked things that I avoiding eating. I felt so hurt, he didn't think about my needs, we had a system in place, I asked him about it and we decided to cook separately, I feel like we are some kind of roommates, that he cares about himself more than our relationship, that we will never be able to have meals together. Event thought he said he just wants to try it for a couple weeks, and also he said he can cancel it if it hurts me so much, and apologised for being inconsiderate. But. I want to be supportive, and let him do his thing. Anyways, is this OCD ?? My reaction? I felt incredibly hurt. It is hard to recognise now when there is no anxiety anymore. Does anyone has this experience? What should I do? It is extremely hard not to react in the moment like that. Maybe it is not OCD and I need to look into different type of therapy??

Hi! 

Yes, definitely it's part of anxiety/OCD. The fact that you're doing better (I'm happy for you :)) doesn't mean you're recover because recover takes some time, different for everybody of course but it takes. So it's normal that in the recovery process the intrusive thoughts/feelings just change, you know? Anxiety and OCD it trying to get you attention again. Probably in that moments you feel angry, hurt or irritated you know that it's really not a big deal as anxiety and OCD is making you feel. As you told, you want to be supportive, right? You know in your deep heart that's really not a big deal, that doesn't mean your partner is not thinking about you or that your partner doesn't care or doesn't love you, it means your partner is doing something for him and that's ok (as you like to do some things he also doesn't like but he supports you, right?). 

So my point is: yes, it's part of OCD, it changes the things from time to time when we're getting recovered from some thoughts and feelings (intrusive) so that it can captivate our attention again. I also have that feeling with my boyfriend sometime, normal things that in my head they're like "red flags" and irritate/hurt me a lot, when they're actually normal things , you know? 

Probably if we didn't suffer from OCD we would be like "oh that's a little annoying but that's fine", you know? It's not because that small things that you really want to break up or whatever with your partner. It's OCD cycle, it is very smart (little devil!). 

That fact that you feel sad and whatever it's related in how OCD is making you see the things, you know, like red flags and really baaaad things and they're not. I knwo it's hard to come up with this for us that are suffering (as I said I also have those moments like you do. sometimes I freak out then I breath and I'm like "ok, I passed through this already, just breath").

Also, in a relationship it's normal arguing sometimes, it's normal getting sad or irritated or whatever, it doesn't have to be perfect all the time. We just need EVEN IN THAT moments, respect our partners, remember why we're with them in the first place, why we share beautiful moments with them, why all that is worth it and then choosing to continue loving despite everything. 

I know OCD makes us feel and think like it's not that's why it all seems so real. I'm sure you're not always positive minded in your job for example and that doesn't mean you want to quit (just an example). 

You should talk with your therapist about that too. Open up your heart. But that's normal, yes. 

A hug from Portugal!

Thanks so much for taking your time to reply! It made me tear up a bit. Because I felt so good and my anxiety was low I thought I react so badly because I am just a horrible and dramatic person??It was quite straightforward to stop ruminating when I was really bad. Now when it comes and goes, I get lost in my feelings and what is what. You shedding light on this and confirming that it is a part of OCD really helps me to move forward. I actually booked a session with Ali and will keep working!

 

Hope you are doing well yourself! 

P.S. I love Portugal! Best wishes from Lithuania ?

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Hi everyone, I have ROCD, I found it out 6 months ago and did few things to heal. Now I am way way better than I was and have many good days. I sometimes feel so good that I think I beated the OCD. However, there is one thing that keeps happening and I am confused. I get trigger by some things that my partner does, I don't feel anxious, I feel very hurt and angry, and I feel like I want to move out, but just in that moment. In a few hours I feel better. But in the moment I cry and express my pain to the partner and often it becomes an argument. It is very hard for me to differentiate where I am overreacting and where I have a right to be angry and hurt. For example, my pertner decided to try a diet without really talking much to me, and cooked things that I avoiding eating. I felt so hurt, he didn't think about my needs, we had a system in place, I asked him about it and we decided to cook separately, I feel like we are some kind of roommates, that he cares about himself more than our relationship, that we will never be able to have meals together. Event thought he said he just wants to try it for a couple weeks, and also he said he can cancel it if it hurts me so much, and apologised for being inconsiderate. But. I want to be supportive, and let him do his thing. Anyways, is this OCD ?? My reaction? I felt incredibly hurt. It is hard to recognise now when there is no anxiety anymore. Does anyone has this experience? What should I do? It is extremely hard not to react in the moment like that. Maybe it is not OCD and I need to look into different type of therapy??

Hi! 

Yes, definitely it's part of anxiety/OCD. The fact that you're doing better (I'm happy for you :)) doesn't mean you're recover because recover takes some time, different for everybody of course but it takes. So it's normal that in the recovery process the intrusive thoughts/feelings just change, you know? Anxiety and OCD it trying to get you attention again. Probably in that moments you feel angry, hurt or irritated you know that it's really not a big deal as anxiety and OCD is making you feel. As you told, you want to be supportive, right? You know in your deep heart that's really not a big deal, that doesn't mean your partner is not thinking about you or that your partner doesn't care or doesn't love you, it means your partner is doing something for him and that's ok (as you like to do some things he also doesn't like but he supports you, right?). 

So my point is: yes, it's part of OCD, it changes the things from time to time when we're getting recovered from some thoughts and feelings (intrusive) so that it can captivate our attention again. I also have that feeling with my boyfriend sometime, normal things that in my head they're like "red flags" and irritate/hurt me a lot, when they're actually normal things , you know? 

Probably if we didn't suffer from OCD we would be like "oh that's a little annoying but that's fine", you know? It's not because that small things that you really want to break up or whatever with your partner. It's OCD cycle, it is very smart (little devil!). 

That fact that you feel sad and whatever it's related in how OCD is making you see the things, you know, like red flags and really baaaad things and they're not. I knwo it's hard to come up with this for us that are suffering (as I said I also have those moments like you do. sometimes I freak out then I breath and I'm like "ok, I passed through this already, just breath").

Also, in a relationship it's normal arguing sometimes, it's normal getting sad or irritated or whatever, it doesn't have to be perfect all the time. We just need EVEN IN THAT moments, respect our partners, remember why we're with them in the first place, why we share beautiful moments with them, why all that is worth it and then choosing to continue loving despite everything. 

I know OCD makes us feel and think like it's not that's why it all seems so real. I'm sure you're not always positive minded in your job for example and that doesn't mean you want to quit (just an example). 

You should talk with your therapist about that too. Open up your heart. But that's normal, yes. 

A hug from Portugal!

Thanks so much for taking your time to reply! It made me tear up a bit. Because I felt so good and my anxiety was low I thought I react so badly because I am just a horrible and dramatic person??It was quite straightforward to stop ruminating when I was really bad. Now when it comes and goes, I get lost in my feelings and what is what. You shedding light on this and confirming that it is a part of OCD really helps me to move forward. I actually booked a session with Ali and will keep working!

 

Hope you are doing well yourself! 

P.S. I love Portugal! Best wishes from Lithuania ?

Thank you!! You're not alone with this, many people are going through the same and just this makes us feel a lil better, we're gonna make it through this! <3

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