How to Help a Friend or a Relative with OCD
First of all as an ex OCD sufferer I realize how difficult it can be to deal with someone who has OCD. You will need to be extremely strong if you want to help them. So here are the things that you can do right now:
1. Stop giving them reassurance. If they repeatedly ask you same thing over and over again you need to calmly tell the person;
“I have already answered this once. You are seeking reassurance because of your OCD. I care about you and I know that reassurance seeking is bad for your disorder. To help you recover I am not going to reassure you anymore.
2. Stop following their avoidance. If this person ask you to participate in an OCD ritual such as doing things to prevent their feared situation from happening you must say no.
Here is an example:
A person with OCD may ask their family members to wash their hands more than needed to avoid getting an illness. The person may demand that certain places or people be avoided because of OCD. You cannot follow their OCD no matter how much they ask you. You must stay strong. In order for them to get better they need to face their fear and realize there is nothing behind it. It is just an irrational fear.
Talk to them calmly. Here is what you should say:
“I understand that you want me to follow what OCD dictates but I am not going to do that because it is detrimental to your progress. I care about you and want you to recover from OCD. This is why I can no
longer participate in these rituals.”
It is very important that you get across to them how much you care about them. Most of the time people with OCD feel unloved and alone. By showing them that you are not going to follow their OCD you are forcing them to face it too.
“The OCD Recovery Program has high recovery rate because of continous text support throughout the day between Ali Greymond and her clients. She guides you through the difficult moments and pushes you to fight for recovery. You are never going to feel alone in your daily battle against against OCD and as long as you follow the program, you will recover.”
OCD Recovery Program Testimonials
I would just like to say a massive thank you to Ali Greymond for all of her help and support through what had to be one of the hardest and most fearful times in my life. Hell sounded appealing to what I was living with- false memory OCD! I’m very private and the thought of telling someone my intrusive thoughts was agonising. I listened to Ali’s shows on YouTube and I knew the best person to help me was her, Ali made me feel so comfortable, I never once felt as though she was judging me in anyway in fact she made me feel the opposite like I was normal and none of this meant anything. She gave me the tools and skyped me every day I felt like She was in the next room the support was amazing. This wonderful lady changed my life, it’s hard work and determination daily but if there’s one person that can help you recover from OCD it’s Ali Greymond. She’s amazing at what she does and me and my family are blessed we found her because I don’t know where I’d be now. Thank you Ali your programme is amazing. (L.)
I came to Ali with a severe case of contamination OCD. Ali graciously offered me an introductory session free of charge. When I asked her when we could start, she said “how about today”? I liked that she was that proactive and willing to jump in immediately. I looked at the packages she offered and signed up immediately for the “Severe OCD” package, because that accurately described the state I was in. Ali almost immediately became my anchor, my support system and friend through this very frightening and lonely disorder. With Ali by my side, I had hope for the first time and I made strides that even surprised me. I was amazed at how quickly I started to recover. It felt like magic to me.
Having been a fellow sufferer herself, she truly understands the disorder. I felt that Ali intuitively knew when to push me through a fear and when to back off. When she felt that I was not ready for an exercise she told me. When she felt that I could push through a fear, she told me and 100% of the time, she was on point! This was extremely important as feeling in control is such a huge element of this disorder. I would recommend anyone suffering with this disorder to work with Ali. She helped me get my life back and that is priceless. (J.)